Worried about my one year old, sorry about the detailed explanation

[LeahsMum16]

My daughter just turned one and up until two weeks ago she was a good sleeper, we had her in bed by 8 pm and she would usually sleep until 7 am, (she woke up once a night but was able to self settle without needing anything from me). She would also have a two hour nap during the day.
Then about 2 weeks ago, she started refusing to have a nap (even though she was obviously tired) she would just scream if I tried to put her down. She also started to take around two to three hours to settle at bedtime, she just wouldn't sleep, would just stand up in her cot, take off her pjs and throw them out (we put her back in onesies and a sleeping bag suit after that incident) and scream or cry or yell for me. She also now wakes up every three hours sobbing her heart out and won't go back to sleep unless I'm holding her. I check that she is dry and warm enough and she also is and she eats plenty so she isn't hungry. We haven't had any major life changes of changed her routine so nothing that would unsettle her. I thought she might be having nightmares but is that possible in a one year old? Any ideas or solutions would be greatly appreciated. Thankyou

[2made3]

Could she have an ear infection? Or "glue ear"?

My DS1 had a lot of congestion as a toddler and we eventually found out he needed tubes in his ears. He was also a good sleeper until about 12-14 months old when he refused to sleep & every night or time he went down it was a screaming match. Laying down if their ears are sore or blocked hurts their heads and puts pressure on their ears. My DS never had any typical signs of ear infection, ever. In fact the ENT specialist was amazed I hadn't noticed any, but he never got red ears or a lot of ear wax and the like or never pulled at his ears etc. all the usual symptoms.

Might be worth getting it checked out?

Another reason may be the back molars are coming through? They can also cause ear ache when lying down?

And sometimes it may just be plain old seperation anxiety at around this age. If all else checks out ok health wise, then just try being firm with her and letting her know bed time is for sleeping - only go in if absolutely necessary and if you do just gently lay her down and say "sleep time" or something then walk out, without making a fuss or giving too much attention to her behaviour.

Good luck!! I know it's hard when kids don't sleep xx

[Me]

If shes alright physically maybe ask the gp about night terrors?

[LeahsMum16]

Thanks for the advice. She is fine physically, the GP checked her ears at her 1 year immunisation appointment. I didn't even think of teething, I know she has a couple coming through so I will keep an eye on it. I made an appointment for the health nurse to come round so hopeully she can give me some ideas too. Thanks again

[leniliasads]

hi everyone , new here and just wanted to ask if LeahsMum16 has had any success with her DD..

My DS is 14 months old, and such a good boy during the day , naps for about 2 hours during the day (sometimes has a second nap in the afternoon) he goes down to sleep in his pram and then i transfer him into his cot ( although sometimes if hes really tired i put him straight in bed no crying).. anyhow, for the past 3 weeks he goes to sleep 7/7.30pm and wakes up from 10pm every hour or so screaming. I have tried to go and in comfort him, let him cry it out, giving him a bottle, changing his nappy, etc but nothing stops him crying until i pick him up and cuddle him, and then when i try to put him back in bed he starts screaming again!!

i have tried bonjela, Brauers Calm & teething relief & sleep relief - nothing is working and its resulted in my cuddling him on the floor in his room for 40mins-1hour until he is fully asleep and then put him back into his cot , only to be woken less than an hour later to redo the whole process!!

Sorry for the long post , and appreciate any help anyone can give !!

E

[trishalishous]

hi everyone , new here and just wanted to ask if LeahsMum16 has had any success with her DD..

My DS is 14 months old, and such a good boy during the day , naps for about 2 hours during the day (sometimes has a second nap in the afternoon) he goes down to sleep in his pram and then i transfer him into his cot ( although sometimes if hes really tired i put him straight in bed no crying).. anyhow, for the past 3 weeks he goes to sleep 7/7.30pm and wakes up from 10pm every hour or so screaming. I have tried to go and in comfort him, let him cry it out, giving him a bottle, changing his nappy, etc but nothing stops him crying until i pick him up and cuddle him, and then when i try to put him back in bed he starts screaming again!!

i have tried bonjela, Brauers Calm & teething relief & sleep relief - nothing is working and its resulted in my cuddling him on the floor in his room for 40mins-1hour until he is fully asleep and then put him back into his cot , only to be woken less than an hour later to redo the whole process!!

Sorry for the long post , and appreciate any help anyone can give !!

E

for me, im lazy. i take the easiest path and we cosleep and bedshare so i dont need to get up if dd wakes. she gets lonely at night but after mummy or daddy cuddles she will keep sleeping.
i dont see anything wrong with cuddling if they need it.
if theres any medical concerns, then id see a doctor to rule out infections

[leniliasads]

thanks for your reply - have tried popping him in the middle of us at night after hes calmed down , he seems to think its time for playing and jumping around

The past couple of nights we have resulted in putting him in the pram beside our bed - he sleeps ok but still wakes up to be pushed back and forth..

I feel horrible when i go in their and try to get him back to sleep by patting him and he stands grabbing my shirt to get him out

I am hoping its just a phase and will soon be gone!!