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    Unhappy Prolapsed Bladder - suffering in silence

    Hi There

    I live hourly / daily with a prolapsed bladder...I hate it and I hate the way it rules my life - I feel disgusting and psychologically it has taken a toll on my general well being.

    I have a beautiful little boy who is almost 3 and so I have lived with this following his birth just shy of 3 yrs. He was a big baby and it was a LONG labour and I did have a VB. I knew around 3-6 months post birth that things did not seem right down below but no GP/Physio seemed to believe me nor did I have any physical examinations until around 12 months post birth and when I moved back to Brisbane my wonderful usual GP took one look and said "Yep - you have a prolapsed bladder" and gave me a referral to a specialist.

    I see a Uro Gyno specialist who has diagnosed me with a moderate/severe bladder prolapse - the bladder sits right at the entrance of my vagina and just touches my underpants and so I guess I am somewhat blessed that it is not completely prolapsed i.e. it is not sitting outside my vagina opening...I usually wear a pesiary ring (it is out at the moment as trying to fall pregnant) which helps but I will have reconstructive bladder surgery once I have finished having a family which needs to be about 2 yrs post last baby. My husband and I are trying at the moment to have another baby and I would say if I fall pregnant and all goes well then I will most likely have a CSection.

    I am 38.5yrs old now and have lived with this for 3yrs and just trying to work out mentally what will get me through potentially another 3yrs of living with this - and so I thought I would give this forum a go. I see professionals from counsellors through to my Uro Gyno but maybe this forum may give me another outlet to feel not so alone and isolated. I am fit, healthy and usually fun loving but in addition I also had my stomach muscles separated from carrying (being otherwise slender) such a large baby during pregnancy. And so in addition to the prolapse (being invisible to everyones eyes) I also have a distended stomach and so am asked frequently from strangers, clients and friends "Oh - are you pregnant" when I have not been pregnant for nearly 3 yrs - I am reduced to tears frequently from this - only plastic stomach surgery will bring back the flat stomach...

    I would love to chat with ANYONE who is suffering with a prolapsed bladder (and/or distended stomach) as there is no one in my circle of friends/family with my condition - infact I have never knowingly met anyone with a moderate/severe prolapse.

    I am reaching out for some kind of chat / contact as I feel so very very ALONE...anyone who has had surgery, is experiencing these conditions, has a prolapse and has had further children I would love to chat.

    Thank you so much
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    You poor thing .. I can't offer any advice, but I know there are other women on Bubhub who have suffered or are suffering with a prolapse after having children.. I hope someone can chime in soon with some sympathetic words for you

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    Giving you another bump as I know there are some great girls on here in your situation.
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    Hi Anga
    I have been through something similar after the birth of my 3rd bub.
    My 4th pregnancy ended at just over 21 weeks so the way I feel the prolapse is much the same as it was before getting pG with #4

    Mine hasn't been graded as such but was told that surgery was the only way to fix things once our family is complete.

    I plan to have one more baby and then see what the damage is afterwards. I have had 4 VB's, all very fast with average weights of bubs (bar DD2)
    I am contemplating a CS if I am to successfully have another bub, but will speak to my OB about whether this will make much difference. Not sure if just carrying a bub full term does most of the damage or not.

    You will be told to just do your pelvic floor exercises but I know that in lots of cases things are past the stage where they will give us a miraculaous recovery.

    Happy to chat if you need

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    Couldn't read this without sending you some hugs and support. Wishing you luck with your journey TTC & all that follows x

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    Hi Leeny

    Thanks so much for replying - I have never used this forum before and so just wondering is there any way to reply privately to your self or anyone else or are the forums such that whatever you reply/post is open to all members to see - I am thinking so but just wondering?
    Thanks for kind words to all of you and Mitake - I will reply / chat tomorrow ...I am so so so sorry to hear about your sad loss and I would love to chat with you
    Kind Regards

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    Quote Originally Posted by anga View Post
    Hi Leeny

    Thanks so much for replying - I have never used this forum before and so just wondering is there any way to reply privately to your self or anyone else or are the forums such that whatever you reply/post is open to all members to see - I am thinking so but just wondering?
    Thanks for kind words to all of you and Mitake - I will reply / chat tomorrow ...I am so so so sorry to hear about your sad loss and I would love to chat with you
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    I think from memeory you have to have made 20 posts to be able to private message(PM) someone. Then only you and the recipient can read it.

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    Hi and welcome to bubhub!

    I think I have a prolapsed bladder too, but am going to the gyno next wed to make sure as it could possibly be my cervix but im quite sure its my bladder or urethra

    Have u been to physio? I went today and found it to be fantastic, I could see the muscles working and that brings hope to me that it will be ok. I know what u mean about the psychological problems, I get teary if im having a bad day with it and step out of the house, it can be so restricting! I have found some positive sites on the net though, if you google 'prolapse health' or 'prolapse physio' and hit the discussions option of google you may find some as well!

    There are others on here who have suffered prolapse and recovered if you go to the top and hit the search you will be able to find their stories. Or if you scroll down to the post partum section you can read through the post i wrote when i first found it and there is also some posts about prolapse in this section but further back
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    Hi Psyched about Mike

    WOW - it is just amazing me that there are other woman out there living with a prolapse - as I have never knowingly met nor spoken with another woman with a prolapse I am finding this website just amazing...

    I know both my Gyno & Uro Gyno said I am an absolute minority for my age and only having had 1 baby - they basically said I was extremely unlucky to end up with a moderate/severe prolapse and I actually asked if there were other woman I could contact and 'due to privacy' etc they had no recommendations for me of where to turn - I have seen 2 womans health physios and they both said sorry - no amount of PF exercise etc will put my bladder back to where it should be ...and point me back to the Uro Gyno - that is fine and I have learnt to accept surgery may fix me one day but the day to day living with this disgusting feeling and not feeling like a beautiful woman anymore is so soul destroying. I would get the surgery tomorrow but we want one more child and in the midst of trying and so it is such a mixed emotion of hey I have lived with this for 3 yrs and my goodness I have another 3-4yrs to go to surgery...aaahhhh...

    I have searched through many stories but alot of woman seem to have maybe had a prolapse and all OK now - very few seem to have a moderate/severe prolapse and so I am starting to believe I am the absolute minority?!

    Cheers

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    i pm'd u anga


 

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