Im so glad that i have read this thread.
Around 6 months my son started waking alot over night when previously he had been an ok sleeper, except was always horrible to put to bed,and i didnt dare cuddle him to sleep or give him too much attention because otherwise i would give him 'bad sleep habits".
I could never do c/c but my partner and i would try to let him "cry it out" for 10 minutes but we would always break as it was so distressing to hear his screams and go in and see his hot wet face.
We were give the t Hall book which we used the routines for feeding ect and i felt like such a failure for not being able to implement the solutions to get him to sleep ALL NIGHT! So many people told me how c/c worked for them blah blah. I felt weak and was always blaming myself for his constant waking and difficulty to go to sleep.
My son is now 10 months old, and recently since being able to stand in cot has refused to go to sleep by himself. I have been cuddling him to sleep for his 2 day naps and breastfeeding him for his bedtime nap which he usually falls asleep in my arms.
A friend gave me a book by Pinky and when i finally realised that babies generally dont sleep all night and there is nothing wrong with you or your baby if it doesnt!
People dont want that solution though! They want 7am-7pm sleeping which is possible if you do this and that and this but if it doesnt work,,,,,, its you, your not consistent.
Now im not chasing an impossible sleep scenario for my baby that drives me mad trying to get him to do what he naturally cant do yet. Because he sometimes wants his Mummy, he can have cuddles if he needs it, i will hold him to sleep because he loves it and he is a baby.
Im so sad i didnt find out untill a couple of months ago that its ok do do what " you shouldnt do". A
nd helping him to go to sleep in a peaceful, loving way that involves not allowing him to cry is actually really beautiful and ok!