TTC after two unexplained misscarriages

**ThirdTimeLucky** · 20-04-2011 20:35

Hi...I am fairly new at this and only wish I had logged on and used this site after the two MC at 12 & 13 weeks (Oct 10 & Feb 11). Hubby and I are again TTC our 1st. AF visted only the other day and am set to ovulate soon.

Feel so anxious am really not trying to be as I too know that there are many couples out there with bigger issues than what we have been faced with. We concieved easily both times but I can't help feeling anxious that the same thing Is going to happen again.

I feel guilty at times as the 1st time we concieved it was very much unplanned and I remember crying thinking "are we really ready for this?" When we lost our babe I was devestated though and It made me want to try again quickly...It made me see that I WAS ready for a baby and now wanted one more than anything in the world. Second time round I felt broken, it took a long time to get over the loss of babe no. 2 but I think I am ready.

Just wish I could relax about this a little bit more.

Does anyone have any hints, tips or advice???

**Etienne** · 20-04-2011 20:43

Hey, no advice just wanted to say welcome and best of luck for a sticky third bub!
I think there's a TTC after miscarraige thread? Have a browse, you will also find very supportive ladies in the testing threads.

**backgroundnoise** · 20-04-2011 23:46

Mostly, just try to relax. I know its soooooo much harder to do but really, you need to. It's pretty unlikely you'll miscarry again, I think. I guess if you're really worried, be strict on the no-nos of pregnancy and know your partner and you are really wanting this kid and if it's not meant to be, you'll know it's not your fault.

I know it really sucks though.

**kioka** · 25-04-2011 11:31

Hi, sorry to hear about your losses

Just wondering if your doc did any testing after your miscarriages. I had a miscarriage last year, followed by a chemical pregnancy and was later diagnosed with a blood clotting disorder. I am now on medication to thin my blood and I'm currently 19 weeks pregnant with a little girl! There are a whole range of blood clotting disorders that can cause miscarriage, so it might be worth getting your doc to test you for these.

your next BFP brings a sticky bub! Good Luck!

**ThirdTimeLucky** · 25-04-2011 18:33

Thanks Luvabubba, for the advice....I have a Great Specialist (Obs/Gynae) who has done a whole heap of Tests exploring Blood Disorders, Endocrine Disorders, Genetic Disorders but to this date nothing has been found...which is sometimes even harder accepting as its not something that can be Diagnosed and therefore treated. He believes my uterus is rejecting the pregnancies and has put me one some immune suppressents and anti rejection drugs. He says its only experimental but I am really hoping it will work?

**apple green** · 25-04-2011 19:27

My story is simliar... Two miscarriages last year and tried a third time... and am now 21 weeks pregnant!

I was a nervous mess through the first trimester. My Dr gave me regular scans to keep my anxiety levels down (6w, 8w, 10w and 12w). I was also on blood thinning injections because a blood test showed high ANA and Dr thought that might help.

Good luck! Be brave!

**ThirdTimeLucky** · 26-04-2011 11:56

Hi apple green....Congratulations on your pregnancy....I think thats FANTASTIC news and certainly gives me hope! I too have been prescribed the Blood Thinning Injections only to take when I am confirmed pregnant.....I have just under two weeks to go until I have to get the pregnancy tests out!!! My fingers are crossed, but its not what I am afraid of....Like you I think I will be that 1st Trimester....I know I will be a wreck....Perhaps I will speak to my Doc about more frequent scans initially.Thanks and Best of Luck to You!!