princessrory I'm really intrigued by this comment. From what I've read, gender has not been an issue is Keepontryin13's decision making. You've introduced it in your post.
My understanding is that KeeponTryin13 is concerned about Charlotte being spread too thin between her work as a Ob/Gyn/FS and her preference for Warren's arguably greater experience. I've had a Ob/Gyn/FS who didn't prioritise IVF and offered an off-the-shelf one-size-fits-all-approach and this cost us dearly time wise, financially, and in overall burden of IVF. It may well have cost us the chance to have a child. I'd argue it's a very valid concern and one that any patient should clarify before embarking on IVF with a new FS. I suspect it wouldn't be an issue with Charlotte, but if I was considering her over Warren I'd want to know too.
I'd also suggest your other point that females need to work twice as hard to get their qualifications is irrelevant if this isn't reflected in their skills. I had an anaethatist for one EPU who totally disregarded her colleagues' well documented reports on my atypical response to anesthetics. I ended up with excruciating issues for a fortnight, was off work and needed additional specialist input all because she was too arrogant and narcissistic to consider her colleagues' opinion, let alone listen to me! Whether this was age or gender I don't know, but as somewhat of a feminist I was really embarrassed as I suspect she disregarded her colleagues input as they were male and she wanted to prove a point. I was harmed by her. I would refuse to have her again and if I hadn't been so ill (thanks to her) and drained by IVF I'd have seriously considered putting in a complaint to AHPRA, not something I'd do lightly.
I'm not trying to be argumentative, but would love to know why you've brought Charlotte's gender up as an issue? I couldn't help but ask.