I wasn't sure where else to post this, so please let me know if I am in the wrong spot!
I am 24 in a few days and my fiance is 31 in August. I'm 25+4 today. Our nuchal was fine with a measurement of 2.0mm, nasal bone seen; bloods were bad: low papp-a and higher hcg. We were given a 1:89 chance of Trisomy 21. Declined an amnio as I was worried about miscarriage... We had a morph scan at 20 weeks and all finger bones looked the correct length, no heart abnormalities seen, no bowel abnormalities seen, nasal bone still present... Recommended for a 24wk growth/cardiac scan, which we went to and everything looked good. I just happened to go to Sogi, not knowing they had genetic counsellors (OMG so fantastic). I had previously been under a private ObGyn, but left her to try for a homebirth... and have ended up being booked into Mater Mothers haha. Mater has been no help and my previous Oby said there was "no point" doing a late amnio.
I reminded her it was just so we could prepare ourselves when the time came. She still said no point. Sooo... we're at Sogi and they tell us they'd be more than happy to do an amnio at 34wks for us to prepare/know. They advised me of the risk of premmie labour, infection etc... I will be going back there for a follow up growth scan at 32wks and will have another chat to them at that time.
I've been reading a lot of inspiring blogs and personal accounts of Mums and Dads who were surprised with a beautiful baby with Trisomy 21 at the birth... I have experience working with beautiful children who have Trisomy 21 and I know they are amazing, bright children who always give unconditional love to the special people in their lives.
I'd just like to know your opinions on late amnios and Trisomy 21. Has anyone here had a result like mine and declined further diagnostic? Were you distracted throughout the birth because you just didn't know? I am finding the not knowing the worst. I would like to know either way for certain so I can just get on with it. We love our little Bean more than life itself. It's not that I care how many chromosomes Bean has... it's just not knowing, if that makes sense.
And to all the parents of beautiful babies with Trisomy 21, how have you gone with breastfeeding, giggles, smiles, little milestones like that? This is our first baby, so we don't have anything to compare it to. Have you been able to manage blessing your little one with a little brother or sister? Have you managed to go back to work part time or work from home?
My fiance is just amazing. He doesn't care for an amnio one iota. I'm not sure he knows the extent of extra care some little ones need, or that sometimes bubs can have delays because of Trisomy 21, but he doesn't want to know. He doesn't think it will change anything. That doesn't frustrate me because I need someone who shrugs and says "so what?". I'm sick of people who pat me on the shoulder and say "I'm sure YOUR baby doesn't have Down Syndrome ". They can't be sure. Nobody can. It doesn't help! I appreciate his realistic "So what if the baby has Down Syndrome? Not going to change how much we love the little bugger, is it?"
I really appreciate any advice or yarns y'all can spin me, ladies Thanks for taking the time to read my babble....