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    Morning!

    MG.....goodluck with your scan today!!! . I'm still going for 2!!

    Waiting.....big mate! Family dramas suck big fat balls! I could go on and on til the cows come home about my family dramas! well mainly just having a continuous vent about my sister! How did your niece go yesterday? Remember i'm ready any time you want for a walk!

    Digby.....12 hours?! are you kidding me! that sucks big time! You as a mother of your unborn child definetely have a choice of the birthing method! the drs can give advice but if you prefer one way over the other for the safety of you and your baby then it should be completely your choice, especially if there has been a traumatic previous birth! big mate! I'm sure you'll get it all sorted!

    LM.....sounds like you are getting great help at home! . Hope all is going well!

    Kiwi......have a fantastic trip! So glad that you'll get to see your grandfather and that he'll get to meet Sam!

    back later for more, grumble bum is grumbling!

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    Digby - perhaps there is a shorter stay because from my understanding Lyell Mac have excellent at home services post baby??? Better than anywhere else in the state I was led to believe. I agree though, 12 hours is NOT good, and I struggle with the idea of 24 hours too. I'd rather be in hospital.


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    MG......your correct they do have (apparantly) a very good home service but TBH I'd rather be in hospital for at least 48 hours to make sure bubs & I are ok before being discharged. My SIL works at womens & says apparently Lyell Mac is rated higher as far as there maternity section goes over womens, so I know I'll be in good hands
    Dont think there will be much to do as far as having someone come out for home visits at my house. Between myself, DH & my mums help the housework will all be done but it would be beneficial just to chat to whoever comes out, especially if I need any help with b/feeding & settling tips. I may even have to get the person who comes out to get the inlaws to leave & give us rest/space. There pretty damn clueless & just don't know when to go etc etc!! My MIL has upset me a bit lately but I don't want to say anything to DH as it only gets us fighting so I'm just bottling it all up from now on. He knows what there like so I don't have to rub it in there face. MIL is forever going on & on about "all the lovely things" she was "going" to buy the baby (which will be there 1st g/child) shes told me she would give us some money to help us out with the things we've purchased as she knows where struggling ATM & she's said half heartily "let me know what I can get" then later says "oh I haven't wanted to get you a lot & interfere" WTF??? Although they are very well off they are soooooo tight it's ridiculous & it's not that I expect them to buy things but I do hate how she's constantly going on about all the things she "was going to buy" I mainly feel bad for DH as my parents do wayyy too much to help us & can think of nothing better in life than helping out there kids & with no 6 & 7 grandkiddies on the way they still act like it's there first IYKWIM. I'm actually having to stop my mum from buying the baby so much. I just think it would mean alot to DH if his parents could make a bit of an effort especially being there first g/child & knowing how hard it's been to get to this point.
    She's upset me more over a few of her comments, maybe I'm taking things a little to much to heart being hormonal and all, not sure. Basically when I told her I (may) hv to have a sect & said it will take a bit linger to recover she turned around & said "that's all right we'll help, we'll take the baby". I turned around in defense & said "no one will be taking the baby" so much for offering to drive DD to school or do some washing,vacuuming or a cooked meal to help us out Grrrrr!!!
    Then a couple of days ago I was saying how where going to hire a capsule she tried taking me out of it when I said how handy it would be if bubs is sleeping & I'm taking DD to karate/hiphop etc, she turns around & says "well just drop the baby at our house instead then u won't need it" I jumped to my defense once again saying "I won't be dropping the baby anywhere, she'll be breastfed. If you want to see the baby you can meet us at karate"
    I maybe over sensitive but feeling like I'm the bloody incubator for them now. My hormones are crazy & I'm probably making a big deal out of nothing but it's doing my head in as I'm having nightmares about the whole in-laws with my baby girl. Obviously I can't talk to DH about it, will only get his backup etc & hurt him. Don't get me wrong his parents are very good "Christian people" just very clueless & live like where still in the 70's. I'm just waiting for her to pull out one of those 70's style bouncers from there cellar to use on our bubs. I've made it pretty clear on safety for our baby & Unfortunatly there the type that think about saving every cent rather than the hazard that may come from doing so, which makes me worry about down the track then looking after bubs but that's another story.......when it comes to my kids & there safety though I speak up & so does DH so shouldn't be a problem hopefully

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    Ooooh - difficult situation Digby. I must admit I sometimes felt a bit incubatorish as well, and we did say my MIL was addicted to the baby. i felt pretty overwhelmed in the first few months.
    Can I give a bit of advice?? I always referred to DH as being the gatekeeper when I gave birth. he was responsible for admitting people in and organising visits etc. Unfortunately he didn't really factor in the exhaustion I had and I really felt bad telling him I was tired to see people. As a result we went for 14 days before I had a day without visitors. The day we were discharged from hospital we were rushing to the shops to get lunch organised for his family - WTF???? Why the hell didn't they say we will bring lunch?? A few times my MIL came over and acted surprised that I didn't have food ready to go. I would suggest having a chat to your DH and asking him to be your gate keeper, and to chat to his family and your friends, watch you and see the signs that perhaps you need a bit of space. i have told my DH that in hindsight he needed to tighten up the security lol. With everything going on and my hormones going nuts, I found it really difficult to express how I felt, and wish he knew a bit more of what to look for.

    Sounds like your MIL may be difficult to manage. However - remember - you have the milk - she doesn't.

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    MG......your correct they do have (apparantly) a very good home service but TBH I'd rather be in hospital for at least 48 hours to make sure bubs & I are ok before being discharged. My SIL works at womens & says apparently Lyell Mac is rated higher as far as there maternity section goes over womens, so I know I'll be in good hands
    Dont think there will be much to do as far as having someone come out for home visits at my house. Between myself, DH & my mums help the housework will all be done but it would be beneficial just to chat to whoever comes out, especially if I need any help with b/feeding & settling tips. I may even have to get the person who comes out to get the inlaws to leave & give us rest/space. There pretty damn clueless & just don't know when to go etc etc!! My MIL has upset me a bit lately but I don't want to say anything to DH as it only gets us fighting so I'm just bottling it all up from now on. He knows what there like so I don't have to rub it in there face. MIL is forever going on & on about "all the lovely things" she was "going" to buy the baby (which will be there 1st g/child) shes told me she would give us some money to help us out with the things we've purchased as she knows where struggling ATM & she's said half heartily "let me know what I can get" then later says "oh I haven't wanted to get you a lot & interfere" WTF??? Although they are very well off they are soooooo tight it's ridiculous & it's not that I expect them to buy things but I do hate how she's constantly going on about all the things she "was going to buy" I mainly feel bad for DH as my parents do wayyy too much to help us & can think of nothing better in life than helping out there kids & with no 6 & 7 grandkiddies on the way they still act like it's there first IYKWIM. I'm actually having to stop my mum from buying the baby so much. I just think it would mean alot to DH if his parents could make a bit of an effort especially being there first g/child & knowing how hard it's been to get to this point.
    She's upset me more over a few of her comments, maybe I'm taking things a little to much to heart being hormonal and all, not sure. Basically when I told her I (may) hv to have a sect & said it will take a bit linger to recover she turned around & said "that's all right we'll help, we'll take the baby". I turned around in defense & said "no one will be taking the baby" so much for offering to drive DD to school or do some washing,vacuuming or a cooked meal to help us out Grrrrr!!!
    Then a couple of days ago I was saying how where going to hire a capsule she tried taking me out of it when I said how handy it would be if bubs is sleeping & I'm taking DD to karate/hiphop etc, she turns around & says "well just drop the baby at our house instead then u won't need it" I jumped to my defense once again saying "I won't be dropping the baby anywhere, she'll be breastfed. If you want to see the baby you can meet us at karate"
    I maybe over sensitive but feeling like I'm the bloody incubator for them now. My hormones are crazy & I'm probably making a big deal out of nothing but it's doing my head in as I'm having nightmares about the whole in-laws with my baby girl. Obviously I can't talk to DH about it, will only get his backup etc & hurt him. Don't get me wrong his parents are very good "Christian people" just very clueless & live like where still in the 70's. I'm just waiting for her to pull out one of those 70's style bouncers from there cellar to use on our bubs. I've made it pretty clear on safety for our baby & Unfortunatly there the type that think about saving every cent rather than the hazard that may come from doing so, which makes me worry about down the track then looking after bubs but that's another story.......when it comes to my kids & there safety though I speak up & so does DH so shouldn't be a problem hopefully

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    Digby.....what a sucky situation! some people just dont get it and dont know when to step back and stop interfering! . Definetely do what MG suggested and get DH to be the gatekeeper!
    As for the at home services by the hospital. sorry to be negative but dont go relying on them too much. My friend was all ready to take on the at home service as she was discharged after 24 hours and she was promised a nurse for 3 hours a day for a certain amount of days.........and wouldn't you know it.......that didnt work out cos 'they didn't have enough nurses'! So she never got the help and had to learn all on her own. This is from the lyell mac too. I guess not everyone is let down like that but it just goes to show that it can happen and not to be fully reliant and expectant of the help you're promised. Just obviously make sure you have the right backup support from your family and friends. Personally i would much rather stay in the hospital too and i'm so glad that I did altho I had a c/s anyway so was in for a week and next time i plan to do the same. Maybe not a weekk but certainly a few days or more.

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    Oops sorry it posted the same message again, don't know what's up with the iPhone sometimes??
    MG.....thankyou for your advice.....I will DEFINATLY have a chat to DH about his gatekeeper duties
    I will also tell him I won't be feeling comfortable feeding in front of others (apart from a few close friends & my mum,sister & s/inlaw so if the babies crying he can be the one to tell them to leave. (I really think it will be just his parents that won't get the hint & will need it Speke out lol) most people with half a brain know to give privacy, especially to a new mum & bubs when it comes to (.)(.) feeding!

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    Lady....yes I remember you telling me about your friend. If I don't get it I will be ok as my mum is bloody fantastic & shed rather do all the running around to make life easier for me & more importantly "bond" with the baby. My sister will be on m/leave then also as she starts from week 20 of her pregnancy (long story) but shes itching to help & knows I'll repay the favour in Oct when she has her baby & my did inlaw works as a RN at womens & is also a (.)(.) feeding specialist & I know I will get the support I need from each of these lovely ladies so we will cope if it's a short stay in hospy with no nurse afterwards. I've deceided I will be pushing for a c-sect though, I'm not risking a natural being what I think is (borderline p/p) & from past birth experience so if I get my way I'll be in hospy for 3 days anyway & by then I'm sure I'll be itching to get home

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    Oh Digby tricky situation I dont envy you at all. My mum sounds very much like your MIL. She was all "ooh Im going to buy this and that.." when I was pregnant which to her credit she did buy some of it, but thats the only help she will ever offer... money. She doesnt know how to do anything else. But (like you said) its not about what they buy or the money, its the intent behind it. My mum has only ever babysat A once and rarely comes to visit. Only time she ever does she has a gift for A which is nice, but it feels like shes trying to 'buy' love from everyone. I wish she would understand that its the fact she has come to visit that counts, not the presents for A. A wouldnt care if she didnt bring gifts and I dont want her growing up thinking every time Gran comes to visit she's going to get a pressie.

    We had problems with the b/feeding too - mum only ever bottle fed me and my sister so wasnt overly supportive of B/feeding. I always felt when she was around that she was looking down at me and like I was doing something horrible. It was an awful feeling and next time Im just going to ignore her. I hope maybe you (to some extent!) can ignore your MIL too, you do what you think is right for bubs and what works best for you!!

    Quote Originally Posted by moongazer View Post
    Sounds like your MIL may be difficult to manage. However - remember - you have the milk - she doesn't.
    Ooooh MG I LIKE that, gonna use that line on people next time How did your scan go?

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    Hi gals!,
    We have 1 nice strong bubba in me! HB 156bpm, crl 14.0mm - measuring 7w5d (I am 7w3d). Really happy. This time I didn't tear up when I heard the hb. Instead I waited until I paid the bill and then had tears rolling down my eyes!! Bring it on!


 

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