It must be me :(

[D&M]

I don't know what it is but I have a lot of trouble keeping friends!
I do have some friends that I have known for a long time and we don't talk all the time but it's always great when we catch up.

I don't know why I am posting this but I am just confused! I make friends easily, we get along but as soon as I can't catch up or have plans with someone else they go funny on me. It's so confusing

Does anyone else have this problem?

[chubby bunny]

Yup and I don't even have kids yet, I work full time and dont like clubbing like all my friend still do... So poof go the catch ups and the phone calls...

It's hard...Wished I had more good friends

[Daydream Believer]

I feel for you
It's disappointing isn't it? For me, I just seem to befriend people who feel a bit blasé about me...

Either that, or they turn out to be crazy... thts happened twice now. And I'm talking craaaaazy. Ironically, she flipped out on me because while we were having lunch (on-campus at Uni) a couple of friends and aquantances said hi to me, and she yelled at me that I told her I had no friends, but here I am saying hello to every man and his dog.

Ive just started to pretend nothing is wrong, but after a couple of consecutive 'turn downs' I stop suggesting we catch up. Also, it's three strikes and you're out for being stood up. That bugs me.

*Sigh*

[kittykawaii]

I have lovely supportive friends who would do anything for me. Pity they all live on facebook lol. No honestly, they're the only true friends I can count on. But most of them live in different states unfortunately
All the friends I once had have all decided that since they're all married and live in a better postcode than me, and that I'm now a single mum living in a not so great area (well I love where I live, its just not 'hip' enough for them), that I'm now not good enough for their little clique.
The 2 that are genuinely lovely and nice to me are just extremely busy.
So I often say I have no friends because I don't really see anyone on a weekly basis.
And I'm shy as it is and find it hard to make friends.
So now I just don't bother anymore really.

[D&M]

I am really upset about the last 2 friends I have made. One has become friends with my sister and spends more time with her now and the other who I was becoming good friends with is now leaving me out and hanging out with my other friends!
I just do not know why I bother, it's got me so upset.
I text her tonight about catching up tomorrow and she said "we will see tomorrow. Going to bed now, catchya!"
Now she is on facebook posting all over my friends wall saying thanks for the catch up today xxxx

[TinyLittleTootsies]

Well I have never had any problems in making friends and keeping them... until now. Since I moved to Melbourne it has been like this. Lots of good conversation, talking about when we will meet up again etc and then nothing. I am currently trying to blame Melbourne, not myself right now haha. I moved here a year ago and I have not made one friend, only talk to locals that I bump into. With DH's work before that and it was to smaller cities each time. Every time I made great friends who I saw often and it was really easy to connect and stay close to them, and since moving they have even visited me in Melbourne!

So yeah.. i am blaming melbourne so that I don't feel lonely and depressed.

[BlissedOut]

I am really upset about the last 2 friends I have made. One has become friends with my sister and spends more time with her now and the other who I was becoming good friends with is now leaving me out and hanging out with my other friends!
I just do not know why I bother, it's got me so upset.
I text her tonight about catching up tomorrow and she said "we will see tomorrow. Going to bed now, catchya!"
Now she is on facebook posting all over my friends wall saying thanks for the catch up today xxxx

I have the same problem exactly, SIL befriends my friends and suddenly they're her friends and I'm their friends SIL.

She's a very social, friends orientated person, her world revolves around friends and I think that's why she has that affect on people.

I actually had a dilema and almost didn't invite my friends to my sons 1st birthday because I didn't want them to meet her, in the end I just kept them very separate.

Good luck.

[Soonmumof2]

Yep! I'm the same

[simitude]

Well I have never had any problems in making friends and keeping them... until now. Since I moved to Melbourne it has been like this. Lots of good conversation, talking about when we will meet up again etc and then nothing. I am currently trying to blame Melbourne, not myself right now haha. I moved here a year ago and I have not made one friend, only talk to locals that I bump into. With DH's work before that and it was to smaller cities each time. Every time I made great friends who I saw often and it was really easy to connect and stay close to them, and since moving they have even visited me in Melbourne!

So yeah.. i am blaming melbourne so that I don't feel lonely and depressed.

same! except I am blaming Sydney... it has been hard since I moved here. all of my friends are in the states... and I really don't keep in contact with them either. i think it's because most of the people my age are going to uni, going clubbing, not having babies. oh well

it's nice to know you aren't the only one without a massive group of friends though