advice??

[brunettechick]

hi, i'm not sure if this is the right place to write this post but here it goes.
bit of background- i've been with my partner nearly three and a half years now, now about 10mths or so into the relationship i fell pregnant (i was 19, he was 21), it was unexpected but were excited all the same, however tragically lost the baby at 10 wks...

three years on from this and... nothing. no mention of trying again, not even a mention of getting engaged, married or anything.
I want so much to be a mum, and that's been constant ever since the baby hormones started kicking in with my first pregnancy sooooo long ago.
i've talked to my dp about this, but he wants to save more money first and get married before trying again, which i understand but i can't stop feeling this way sometimes.

i guess i've seen so many of my friends have a miscarriage then they try again straight after and get pregnant, or else their dp pops the question or else both. i'm not trying to be *****y or ungrateful, i would please appreciate any stories from people who have waited years after their first miscarriage to try again with the same partner, or just any advice or people in the same situation as me??
thanks

[bellalika]

I was just finishing my second year of uni when we got pregnant and lost our baby at about 8 weeks. I was 20 and bf was 21. I know it sounds wrong, and while we were upset, we were sort of happy too. It wasn't the best timing and we wouldn't have been able to provide for our child like we wanted to.

Fast forward 10 years and I'm married to bf, so now DH and have two little boys. He didn't propose until nearly three years after our mc, and we got married a year later. We've now been married for 5 years last October and will have been together for 11 years in May.

Don't worry if your not like everyone else. We were the first of DH's friends to have a long term relationship, get married or have kids but about the middle with my friends. You and your partner need to do what's right for you and your partner.

Oh, and there is never a 'perfect' time to have kids.