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    Hi everyone

    Calli - how are things going with your embryos? Did you get to speak to your FS about the transfer? Are you really sore this round?

    Kate - I can understand why you would be upset with your DH. You just need him to be there for you and not to make things harder when you are feeing so down and emotional. I think IVF is one of the hardest things a couple can go through because both of you are going through something really difficult and both of you want to/need to lean on the other. Maybe your DH is just escaping it all and this is his way of letting off some of the hurt/disappointment too?? Maybe trying to ignore it?? I totally understand that you go through more physically and emotionally but as a partner I can tell you it hurts heaps for us too. I hope you and DH can talk about it and try and acknowledge each others feelings. Sending you hugs. xx And to be honest it took us a lot longer than we expected to feel ok again after our miscarriage. Hang in there. It does get better.

    Jen - how did the op go today Jen? I hope you are not too sore. Let us know what they say tomorrow about how it all went. I really hope this is the thing that makes a difference for you.

    AFM - we didn't get the best news today. Kate's HCG came back at 280 - when at a minimum they really should have been at least 480 (and 900 if they were doubling every 2 days). So not looking good for our little embryo... Kate is staying on the progesterone through to Monday and we'll do one last blood test then but to be honest we are not holding our breath. We are a bit gutted... This is one bumpy ride....

    T&K

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    Hi everyone,

    Kate - I completely understand your frustration at your DH. I don’t think that our men really understand how much we put our bodies and minds through in this journey. It can be especially tough when things don’t go to plan. I imagine that TK is right in that he is trying to deal with this in his own way and in his own time. It is a shame that he doesn’t lean on you more instead. But perhaps he doesn’t feel you are strong enough to cope with his hurt on top of your own and he is really doing this to protect you. My experience shows that sometimes our men just need to let loose and spend some bloke time with their mates, especially when things are a little rough. There is only so much a partner can do to help out in times when they are feeling down. I always feel like you do though, but after 12 years I am starting to understand how my DH works. Now I often encourage him to go out before he suggests it and I have found that he often comes home earlier or says he just wants to stay with me and doesn’t go at all. I imagine that is cause he no longer feels like he needs to get away cause I am not ‘nagging’ him to stay with me. Just a little food for thought for you. Not an easy situation and don’t ever worry about venting to us. We are all here for you (and each of us) to help in any way possible .

    TK – Aw I am soooooo sorry to hear your BT results were not as we all hoped they would be . I still have hope that Kate’s levels may pick up by the BT on Monday. I will keep everything crossed for you both . I am sending you well wishes for a strong one this time. Keep in touch about your results on Monday – we are all here for you both if you need us.

    Jen – How are you feeling honey? I hope that DH is looking after you. I am only a short drive from you so if you need anything, just ask. We are all keeping our fingers crossed that this is the answer for you.

    AFM – I have really suffered this time around. I guess its cause I had so many removed. I have really struggled to get back on deck. Last time I felt like I could have gone back to work the day after but this time I am still off today (although I went back yesterday but was sent home by one of the partner’s cause he said I looked pale and shouldn’t be there). Hopefully with a little rest today I will be good as new for tomorrow. Hopefully anyway. Trace, how was Kate this time around after her EPU? Cause from memory she had a number removed? I heard from the embryologist yesterday and all 8 eggies are going strong. Because I was so worried, my FS is coming in to do the transfer on Saturday. That has just taken the stress away which is great. I feel a little guilty as I know he was supposed to have the weekend off but I was hesitant to have someone who doesn’t know me or my insides to do the ET. It has all worked out well. Thanks so much for your help and advice everyone xx

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    Hi girls,

    Thanks for your responses. My DH isn't the most communicative person going around and I understand that this is probably his way of venting - but how many times does he get to let loose???? I don't nag him to stay home - I'd rather he not be around me when he's in this kinda mood - he is really sulky! I was even driving them to the places they wanted to go. I just wish it was a little more balanced. I haven't had a chance to relax and spend some time out with my gf's because I don't have anyone to pick up the slack....... I haven't really had time to grieve/take time out/relax after everything because he's doing it

    Oh well - what can we do. I guess he thinks I'm strong enough to cope with all this and the stuff he throws at me!

    T&K - I can't believe how many different results you are getting. It must be hard to cope with. You want to be excited but you're not allowed to be yet.

    Calli I had a week off work after the transfer (then got the flu and had another week off) so don't feel pressure to be at a certain point - everyone is different I guess.

    Really can't wait for this day to be over. My little poochie is having surgery today and I'm a nervous mumma waiting for the phone call to pick him up!!!

    x

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    Hi Girls

    T & K – I am so sorry that you are going through this again, I just don’t understand why things have to be so hard all the time, it really is just unfair. I can’t think of anything else to say apart from how unfair this all is, this is such an emotionally trying time, the ups and the downs are so bloody high both ways. I’m praying that this turns around for you. Please know we are all here for you, I wish we could change it. Huge hugs to you both.

    KT – Huge hugs for you as well. I’m sorry that you are having a tough time with your DH; this journey at times can be a really lonely one, even when things are fine with your partner, let alone when they are not. I agree with what the girls are saying that perhaps this is his way with coping with his grief; however it doesn’t help you or give you the time to cope with yours. Can you try and talks with him explain how you feel? Perhaps write him a letter (don’t know if that sounds silly to your or not, but you can let him know how you are feeling)? After we had our miscarriage my DH really went into his shell, where as I was the opposite and needed to talk all the time, we really were opposites, unfortunately we did have a big row, all those emotions bursting out, but it actually brought us closer together. Please don’t ever feel like there is a time scale of when you should feel fine again, this is your grief, and you need to take all the time you need to heal. It does get easier over time even when sometimes you think it will never be ok again. Always here if you need to talk, and please feel free to vent as much as you need to. I hope you get the call from the vets soon and your dog is ok.

    Calli – Aw hun I am sorry that you are in pain, and bless you for wanting to come and look after me you are so sweet, I am fine though, if you need me to come see you though I am more then happy to come make you cups of tea. Please don’t try and rush back to work if you are not feeling up to it, you need to think about yourself first! I am so pleased that your FS is going to be able to do your transfer on Saturday, thank goodness you have one less stress to think about, especially at such a crucial time, I’m so happy for you!

    AFM – As far as I know surgery went fine yesterday, came round well and have had hardly any pain! Am going in tomorrow to see my FS to find out if he saw anything and where we go from here. Before surgery he came and saw me and said that I could go straight into my FET after the surgery if I liked, I mentioned that DH and I were thinking of maybe doing a fresh cycle instead, but was after his opinion, so will find out more tomorrow. Fingers crossed!

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    Hey ladies

    Call - that's so good your FS will be doing the transfer and you don't have to worry about that now. How are your embryo's going? Did you get an update yesterday on them? Do you think you will have some to freeze? Kate had about 10 eggs each round - first round she was a LOT more sore for longer than the second round. Our FS said he did a lot of "sucking" so that might have been why. Round 1 she had 3 days off work including egg pick up day. But Round 2 she was back at work after 2 days off. Hope you are starting to feel better. We found sustagen drinks, lots of dairy/eggs and movicol helps.

    Jen - That's good you don't feel too sore after the op. Let us know what your FS says today and whether you will do a fresh round of use your last frozen embryo.

    KT - Maybe you should just go ahead and book in some time for yourself with your girlfriends and just do what you need for you. Don't worry if the housework doesn't get done or the pets don't get their walk. Sometimes we put so much pressure on ourselves to keep on top of everything when we just need some time out. Hopefully if you just put yourself first and do what you need for yourself then maybe you wouldn't feel so mad at DH for taking the time he needs. Its just hard. Such a juggling act and so many emotions involved.

    It can be so disheartening but what I tell Kate and myself is - well we have done the first two rounds of IVF. We don't ever have to do those 2 again. There is a number that it takes for us to make our baby (like e.g. we succeed on round 4 or 7) - we don't know what that number is but no matter what those first two are done. At least it feels like progress...

    AFM - we are kind of in limbo land. We don't want to give up on our little Shadow and are hanging onto the glimmer of hope that she will suddenly catch up. I guess time will tell.... going to try and enjoy our weekend before the results on Monday. Kate is getting some pregnancy sypmtoms which just does our head in too. The thing is we haven't had any bleeding or cramping at all since that first day or two... which also makes us feel like there is hope. Other women don't get this many blood tests and just float along unaware that there could be an issue. I guess some slow starters can catch up and others don't. I guess no matter what we have learnt some more things and got further than before.

    T&K

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    Hi Girls

    Well I saw my FS and he said everything looked fine although I had a very thick lining and there wasn’t much room, so he sent it off for testing just to check there was no infection, haven’t heard anything as of yet, so think it is all ok. As for starting a new cycle we are going to do a fresh cycle, I had some bloods today to see if I could start straight away, so just waiting on that phone call to see where we go from here. Hoping that the D & C has fixed any problems that may have been there

    T & K – I have everything crossed for Monday, it’s def got to be a good sign that Kate has had no pain or bleeding. I think one thing we all know is that nothing is that black and white where fertility and reproduction is concerned, so the best thing is to try and stay positive. I really wish you didn’t have to deal with this.
    PS. I love your approach to how that is two cycles you don’t have to do again, that is such a great way of thinking. I always try to think about how each day is just one day closer to having our much longed for babies...

    Calli – Good luck for tomorrow, will be thinking of you.

    KT – Hope your pooch is ok. Thinking of you

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    Hi ladies,

    Sorry not to log on before now but had a hectic day at work yesterday.

    Jen - glad to hear that things went well with your surgery. Hope you continue to improve. Have you heard as to whether you can start straight away yet? Hope so cause the waiting game is awful. Unfortunately I won't be able to catch up next week cause I ended up having most of this week off (with the exception of Wednesday morning and Friday). So don't think I can push it and take anymore time off at the moment. Weekends are always a good time for me though.

    Tk - don't give up on your little shadow yet. Hopefully things will have picked up a little and you will get some good results come monday. It has to be a good sign that kate has stopped bleeding now. Not long to go until Monday and at least Kate can just rest up cause its the weekend. I have everything crossed and are sending you some good luck wishes for good results come Monday.

    Kate - how is your pooch after the surgery? Hope you had a good day off yesterday caring for your pooch.

    Hi to everyone else.

    Afm - we had the transfer this morning so have excellent quality embryo on board that is hopefully snuggling in nicely. On a positive note, I managed to keep myself from falling off the table this time which was a step in the right direction. I had acupuncture yesterday and again today just after the transfer which will hopefully help. And I have been resting on the couch since then. My accupuncturist suggested to rest, watch happy movies and to lie flat on the couch with my head on the pillow. Anything that helps right. Thankfully we have at least one frostie and possibly 3. We will find out tomorrow for sure. I really hope this is the one. Bt is scheduled for 24th July so guess we will find out for sure.

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    Hi All,

    Im new to this - IVF & forums - so apologies if I don't get this right.

    I have just started my first cycle of IVF with Dr Davidson & CFC at Robina. I've noticed a lot of ladies on here are with Monash. So far im really happy with CFC so we'll see how it all goes.
    I started my cycle on 7th July & am now day 8. I'm on 200 puregon & started my orgalutran yesterday (day 7). Had my first u/s & BT yesterday and have 7 follicles on my right ovary & 5 on my left. Much better than expected as I have a low reserve.
    Ive got a fair bit of discomfort in my lower abdomen & I'm really tired. I'm going to the gym doing light cardio & yoga classes & having lots of afternoon nanna naps. Yesterday I slept for 3.5 hrs in the afternoon. ������
    Dont really mind the injections. I find if I really pinch my fat quite hard I don't really feel the needle go in. It's just the sting afterwards.
    Can anyone help me though? I noticed tonight I have clear cervical mucous. I didn't know if that was ok or not. I usually produce a fair bit throughout my natural cycle which turns to egg white at ovulation but didn't know if I still should have it during my IVF cycle. I'll ask my FS on Monday but it's on my mind & it's Saturday night. I googled it with no luck. Any help would be awesome!

    Im off to read more posts. Look forward to chatting to some fellow gold coasters throughout this journey.

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    Hi bec08jebs - welcome. hmmm... I think your cycle is very different to mine. I take lucrin for the first 12 days then add FSH as well for a further 12 days then egg pick up. I am fairly new to this too but it seems that every clinic does things differently. Your results from your scan seem good 12 embryos is a great result. Hopefully one of them is the one .

    I imagine you are feeling bloated and uncomfortable because you have some many embryos growing. It will get a little worse I am afraid cause they are still growing. Small sacrifice if things work out though .

    I imagine you may feel so tired as you are still exercising. In saying that though, It is normal to feel a little more tired than normal. I generally stop working out when I start day 1 cause although it does my head in not exercise, especially when you are used to regular exercise, I figure that I don't want my body to be working any harder than it has to or taking the focus away from growing the embryos and having the embryo snuggling in. That is just the way I do thing -everyone is different though. Just make sure you listen to your body -it will tell you what it needs.

    I found I didn't mind the injections either. Just the effect of them was what I had problems with this cycle. Some people have suggested icing the spot before you inject - acts as a numbing agent.

    Re your mucous, difficult to say cause our cycles are different but I had similar to what you have described this cycle. Best bet would be to speak with your FS tomorrow. When is our egg pick up scheduled for?

    Hope that helps a little. Feel free to ask us any more questions that you have. We are all here to support each other on this roller coaster ride we are on.

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    Hi Calli,

    Thanks for replying. I'm freaking out today. I have egg white mucous now. I can't talk to anyone cause they're closed. This is really scary.


 

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