Will I survive 3 nights without my DS?

[Piffle]

This is going to sound pathetic!

My hubby and DS (17 months) are spending 3 nights away in April visiting his family for a big birthday bash. I wasn't able to go due to work and I insisted they still go without me.

Now I am really freaking out that I'll miss my DS too much. Of course I'll miss DH too but it's more a biological/chemical NEED with my DS! I am the one that DS is most attached too and I am also worried about the impact on him.

So I guess I'm asking for reassurance that it'll be okay. Or opinions otherwise.... My big secret fears:

1) DS will forget me, or not love me as much when he gets back
2) DS will be distressed or emotionally scarred by not seeing me in 3 whole nights (perhaps a bit self-centred of me?! but he IS most attached to me out of anyone)
3) He won't be looked after as well as when he's with me! DH is a great dad but never thinks of all aspects of DS's care like I do, and can't interpret DS's needs like I can (perhaps I'm a bit OCD but at least I'd never forget to give him morning tea like DH has hahaha). And... I'm his Mummy!
4) I'll waste those whole 2 days of freedom by moaning and crying over missing DS!

ALL opinions/experiences welcome!

P.S. I COULD go too but I'd only be able to go for 1 night and it's a huge interstate trek which is why we decided I wouldn't bother.

[krystallxx]

No help sorry but I'm having the same worries when I go into hospital to have this baby. I haven't ever been away from them and I am so stressed how they will cope without me and how I will go without them.

I think the worry is normal though lol.

My dp works interstate and we don't see him for weeks on end and my kids still remember him and get excited to see him etc etc and he hasn't even been there much for them so I'm sure ur bubby will remember you and very excited to see you

[GypsyFortuneTeller]

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[lulu 2]

I cry every time I leave the kids at the farm when we go away but after the first phone call to them I am fine especially when I hear what a good time they are having. To tell the truth I did the same when I had to leave my dogs too its about the trusting someone is going to care for them as good as you do.
I miss them everytime I see something they would enjoy but remind myself the other times like when having dinner out somewhere that they wouldn't want to be there anyway as we wouldn't have a relaxing time.

[Girl X]

I think that your DS will be just fine. I normally find that I rush back to DD (when I've been away), and she is happily playing away and has had a great time without me!

He will probably be spoilt with lots of cuddles and love at the birthday party, and will have a wonderful time being the centre of attention!

Maybe it would help to organise something fun with a girlfriend in the evenings that you're not working. Just something to take your mind off things, and something that's a treat for you too. A spa/ massage? Theatre/ dinner out?

[jennibear]

My DH and i were married whe DD was 15 months, we went away for 2.5 weeks to Italy for our honeymoon. It was the hardest thing ive ever had to do-leave DD. I was in tears when we put her down for her afternoon nap as we were leaving after that and wouldnt see her again for over 2 weeks. BTW DH was in tears too hehehehehehe!

Once we were in Italy it was fantastic but i missed her like crazy! My MIL (who was looking after her while we were away sent photos via email everyday. Maybe get your DH to send photos daily to you while they are away. It made it alot easier for me!

it will be hard and you'll miss him TERRIBLY but you'll be fine, enjoy your time off hehehe!
And when you see him again, it will be SUPER exciting. DD wasnt too sure about us when she saw us again, but one cuddle and she was back on our side!!