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    So I'm basically consumed with guilt and regret for choosing to continue my unplanned pregnancy. DP and I sometimes joke about how babies ruin your life but I don't think he realises that I'm secretly not joking.
    I think I've done a damn good job with DS anyway, I've never felt like I'm not coping, he's happy and securely attached to me. I'm just not attached to him and haven't gotten over the loss of the life I had and was going to have.

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    @deku oh my I know exactly how you feel. Exactly. Such hard words to admit to yourself let alone write.

    Happy to chat if you ever want to.

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    @deku oh my I know exactly how you feel. Exactly. Such hard words to admit to yourself let alone write.

    Happy to chat if you ever want to.
    Oh bless you harvs
    I just wanted to get that out somewhere, acknowledgement and validation from someone (a very lovely person at that!) is a welcome bonus.

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    I am so drained from 3yo dd2. She is either really really happy or grumpy. Nothing wears her out. Not even 3 plays at parks and a 10km+ bike ride in one day. I'm finding everyday just frustrating. We can't afford child care at the moment. She doesn't start school until next year. I don't really have anyone close by to watch her on a regular basis except maybe once a month and that's too far between. She isn't a naughty kid or anything. She just never stops. She doesn't sleep very well either. Never has. She is overly affectionate while dd1 doesn't do affection at all. Its like dd2 got both shares of that. Dd1 and dd2 are total polar opposites to each other. I wouldn't trade them, although I wish some things would improve, but I am counting the days until dd2 starts school and have done since she was a baby.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DesperatelySeekingSleep View Post
    I am so drained from 3yo dd2. She is either really really happy or grumpy. Nothing wears her out. Not even 3 plays at parks and a 10km+ bike ride in one day. I'm finding everyday just frustrating. We can't afford child care at the moment. She doesn't start school until next year. I don't really have anyone close by to watch her on a regular basis except maybe once a month and that's too far between. She isn't a naughty kid or anything. She just never stops. She doesn't sleep very well either. Never has. She is overly affectionate while dd1 doesn't do affection at all. Its like dd2 got both shares of that. Dd1 and dd2 are total polar opposites to each other. I wouldn't trade them, although I wish some things would improve, but I am counting the days until dd2 starts school and have done since she was a baby.
    Energiser bunnies are freakin' hard work. I used to take my middle one to three different playgroups (no day care here to speak of) in different towns just to try and keep him occupied.
    Have you got some friends you can catch up with at the park? Grab some coffees and then just let the kids run around like crazy ducks?
    DS2 had one DVD that always kept him interested for at least 30 minutes and I am not ashamed to say that we went through about five copies of it!

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    Energiser bunnies are freakin' hard work. I used to take my middle one to three different playgroups (no day care here to speak of) in different towns just to try and keep him occupied.
    Have you got some friends you can catch up with at the park? Grab some coffees and then just let the kids run around like crazy ducks?
    DS2 had one DVD that always kept him interested for at least 30 minutes and I am not ashamed to say that we went through about five copies of it!
    Ha! An error said this never actually posted.

    The mother's group I was apart of are all busy doing their own thing these days. The days they are free, I'm not. As for friends with kids similar ages, not really.

    We do some activities during the week. We tried the play group in town but it is so cliquey. They are nice and all but they all grew up together and when they start talking it feels very exclusive, even their kids are cliquey. Dd2 makes friends so easily though. We could go to the park and before we leave she has made new friends. I do need to make more of an effort with play group though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DesperatelySeekingSleep View Post
    Ha! An error said this never actually posted.

    The mother's group I was apart of are all busy doing their own thing these days. The days they are free, I'm not. As for friends with kids similar ages, not really.

    We do some activities during the week. We tried the play group in town but it is so cliquey. They are nice and all but they all grew up together and when they start talking it feels very exclusive, even their kids are cliquey. Dd2 makes friends so easily though. We could go to the park and before we leave she has made new friends. I do need to make more of an effort with play group though.
    Wish we lived closer!

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    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    Wish we lived closer!
    One day when your living the "normal" life and everything has settled we should do that city catch up with a few other ladies too.

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    Subbing.
    I fit in here.
    While I'm having a good day today, about a month ago I could have filled pages in here had I known about this thread.
    I'm not missing a life I could have had because I'm pretty sure I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing, but I just wish I had some time for me.
    It was my birthday yesterday and all I wanted was to have use of my own two hands again.
    Have some time to paint, get crafty, bake...anything other than look after everyone else. It didn't happen. DD is four months old and still so much work, doesn't sleep and she's still feeding two hourly.
    I know it will get better but I feel suffocated at the minute.


    Hugs to everyone.

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    We don't leave the house coz DS1 is hard work. I'm sick of one friend in particular (a new mum of one crazy good kid, sleeps well, still naps, doesn't cry, does what it's told all the time...meh) always asking us to go out to the stupid play things... I hate them. It's not relaxing it's hard work. 3 under 4 and DS1 is 'special' touches everything and everyone, has meltdowns, wants to leave.. Doesn't want to leave. Follows people out the gates. I hate it.


 

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