Yet another person looking for a surrogate...sigh - Qld

**FindingBubby2** · 07-03-2011 15:36

This is how my story goes...
We have been extremely lucky and already have a beautiful 17 month old daughter. Greedy for more bubby love in the house, I fell pregnant in September last year and we were ecstatic. Unfortunately, at my 6 week scan the heartbeat was low and the size small and my doctor prepared me for the worst. From that moment and for the next 3 months I was poked, prodded, injected and conferenced with. However, we never lost hope and when we discovered the pregnancy had failed, we then grabbed on to the fact that it was okay and we would try again when the time was right.
We were in a particularly unusual situation whereby I was unable to go through a D&C as I had placental tissue embedded in my caesarean scar which could compromise my uterus. When my ob told me that if I was older and had already had my family a hysterectomy would have been immediate, this freaked me out completely. However, he is an excellent ob and informed me of everything and was doing some experimental stuff with methotrexate (chemo drug – not very nice) to try to ensure this didn’t happen. I just couldn’t believe that I could be the only person to have this happen, but as he tells me, it doesn’t happen a great deal, or if it does, the baby goes to term and then a hysterectomy has to be completed.
Well, it came to a head in December when my ob told me that the methotrexate had done all it could do and I was as ready as ever for surgery. I was so scared of what could happen but was so hopeful that things would be finally over and ready for us to try again. When I woke up from surgery I asked what they did and the nurse told me it didn’t go to plan. From that moment I knew what had happened. Apparently ob started doing the D&C and things were going well but my uterus wouldn’t contract and I started bleeding. Because of this I had to have an emergency hysterectomy and blood transfusion.
As anyone could imagine, this was an intensely traumatic and horrific experience, both physically and emotionally and it is still fairly raw. Of course though, having my daughter and husband around certainly helps one recover and realise that it is much better to be here on earth than fertile.
Hubby and I thought of surrogacy pretty much immediately but have wanted to give ourselves time to heal and make sure it was what we both wanted. Three months on we are passionate about moving into the surrogacy world to add to our family. If there is anyone out there who could help us we would love to hear from you…even if you have just have words of wisdom, understanding or knowledge.
Thankyou Bub Hub readers for letting me share my story and ask for help.

**chatabox** · 07-03-2011 17:17

I hope you find the perfect person to be a surrogate for you. I have just sent you a PM. Hope to talk to you soon.

**SammiJane** · 08-03-2011 13:56

Good luck with finding the right person

I would love love love to be a GS but i think i am way to old now

**Mama24Crazies** · 08-03-2011 20:29

Hi there brave findingbubby2,

Well done.......that post was fantastic. Lots of information!!!!

Gosh, that would have been so hard to be on medication like methotrexate and to then look after your little girl at the same time...

. I hope you weren't on the medication for long.

Wish you all the luck in the world......your off to a great start.

Look forward to updates.

Love

Karen

**FindingBubby2** · 09-03-2011 10:02

Thanks so much to everyone's kind words through the forum and the lovely personal messages. Even if it isn't someone who can help, the words certainly make you feel better!

I too hope that we can find someone one day to help us and concentrate on this thought so much that I feel as though it will happen.

Karen, I had four injections of the methotrexate and each one builds up in your system so the first one was fine but from then one I just got sicker and sicker. It was really tough looking after my bub at the same time. I not only had morning sickness for about 6 weeks but I then had this chemo sickness! Luckily the drug doesn't affect fertility long-term and I only have to wait 3 months to do any egg harvesting...of which we are nearly at!

See you everyone until another day, I have to get back to work!

**MamaC** · 09-03-2011 10:32

I got all teary when I read your story Findingbubby2

. I just wanted to say that I really really really hope a lovely lady out there can help you fulfill your dream of a sibling for your daughter!

So sending you lots of

vibes!

**jo-anne.36** · 09-03-2011 11:42

hi there FB2 i want to wish you good luck on the search of you surro and my she be just around the corn from you as do feel for you as i we are moving a long the jounrey of surro with donor embryos we were lucky enought to fine our surro friend right on here in 09 so hang in there those who good thing s come to them and you never know your luck in a big city take care

jojo

**FindingBubby2** · 04-05-2011 11:53

Hi Everyone

I've been away for a while and I had some wonderful news in that someone had offered to be a surrogate for us...but now they changed their mind so we are back at square one

.

It's so sad because I had already made my appointment at the Queensland Fertility Clinic to have my initial consultation with a fertility specialist. Hubby and I still went to the appointment and our specialist was fantastic and he said we will have no problems getting acceptable into the program...all we have to do is wait for someone.

So again, I am reaching out to anyone who may be able to help us in a quest to have another baby.

Hope everyone else is having more luck than us.