My wife and I have been trying to have a baby for the last 2 years. We spent the first year with a Gynaecologist in Victoria before moving to Queensland. Due to the waiting lists it took us 6 months before we got an appointment with the specialist up here. After more blood tests, poking and prodding I will never forget the look of devastation and heart break on my lovely wife’s face when we were told that her eggs were no longer viable and that we stood no chance of conceiving naturally, with or without IVF.
Now we have had more bad news and we will no longer be able to use and egg donor but, this is OK we dont need to have a biological link to a child. Loveing a child uncondtionaly has nothing to do with genetics.
I am told that I need to believe that it will happen and it will.
I have been doing that but, sometimes it is hard.
I have been told that it will happen for me because what goes around comes around.
I help others all the time I ift them up when they are down I help them smile instead of frown.
I have no shortage of egg donors and if I could use an egg donor I would then I would be well on my way to haveing a baby but, I need an embryo and that is where the problem lies.
So many women become attactched to those little ice cells. They think of them as a baby as a child.
Women worry that their children will feel cheated because their mum gave away their brother/sister.
They worry that any child born as a result of their donated embryos will come looking for them and will be angry for being given away or feel like they were abandoned.
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An embryo has the potential for life, the potential to be born, the potential to become part of a family.
Children do not think of an embryo as a baby, and as long as they are never lied to and always have all thier questions answered with honesty they are very understanding. You are the one who teaches them about what you have done and why you did it. They wont think you have given away their baby sister/brother, they will think you are very special because you helped a lady to have a baby.
Any child created from donated embryos in my family will be told the truth at an age appropriate time.
I hope to raise the child with the love and respect that would be deserved by the donor angel. They wont feel abandoned they wont be angry. I hope that they would in fact be very gratefull for being given the chance to be born.
I hope this answers any questions you may have I also hope this will help you to make the very hard decision about embryo donation.
Our only hope now lies with a caring and generous Angel who would be willing to let us adopt her embryo's so that our dreams can come true. I hope that we can find this Angel soon, as time is running short for us both. I would love dearly to give my wife a child, allow her to experience the joy of being a mother again and to bring light and happiness into our lives.
also on page 15 of my thread.
Friday 21st October 2011 I am hopeing that we can finaly get a date for my transfer.