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    Quote Originally Posted by malaga223 View Post
    it seems 'more' rude to me as I don't see emoticons on the phone but the phrase ... For ages I thought people were actually typing that to each other which blew me away!
    I can definitely see how seeing the term :rolls eyes: would of come across as very rude, for sure.

    I like the little dude though. When I'm feeling annoyed with myself or rolling my eyes at myself he comes in handy. I will admit to using him because of rolling my eyes at what others have said though, which probably isn't a good thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TabouliRasta View Post
    I do actually find you to be an assertive poster and find it surprising that you are non confrontational irl. You strike me as a very balanced individual...as apposed to some (when I say some, I mean me)
    That's the nicest compliment I've had today.

    I do try, but often find myself playing devils advocate a little too much, not necessarily because I believe it, but because I think it's important for people to be able to see both sides of a situation. I handle all my conflicts in writing if possible, because it's my forte and I get to run everything through my internal editor before sending it to make sure it sums up what I really mean to say without being misunderstood, whereas face to face conflicts I end up a quivering wreck at the first hint of a raised voice and I'm likely to blurt out the wrong thing. I'm such a pacifist!

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    Quote Originally Posted by TabouliRasta View Post
    That's so interesting, for me it's women. I often say that my mum could be a bloody medal winner in the PA olympics, and I don't want to follow in her footsteps.

    I also think that as women on forums, and on this forum, having a normal, assertive dialogue is hard.
    Women don't usually use their fists.

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    I actually surprise myself at how assertive I have become.... I'd happily classify myself as a healthy assertive these days....

    It wasn't always that way though, I moved from passive, meandering through passive-aggressive for a long time before I got to this place...

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    Quote Originally Posted by TabouliRasta View Post


    I think you're assertive, I've always thought you would be the best mod.
    Well you reply was a heck of a lot nicer then DFs
    Thank you

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    Massively interesting. And weird timing.

    Today my housemate and i were discussing how we react to drama (we both have family drama - as does her partner - so we're currently surrounded by drama from three separate families). And i made a comment about how i just tend to avoid confrontation until eventually it just gets too much and i blow a fuse.

    Which seems to be Passive-Aggressive, although i think that I tend to still stick more to an assertive-aggression when i do lose the plot.

    That said, my mother and i needle each other like crazy. which I'd still say is passive-aggressive, but it feels more aggressive.

    Interesting, gives me much to ponder I think i am slowly becoming more assertive though. I'm far too afraid of confrontation to ever be aggressive, but i'm certainly not passive

    On forums i just keep my mouth shut if i don't think i can be nice
    [and i like to blab on...sorry]

    and i ADORE mr . he really sums up my entire personality (which obviously i don't bring out infront of most people...my housemate cops my rants about the rest of the world complete with mr - )

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    Quote Originally Posted by Teley View Post
    Women don't usually use their fists.
    I've not been in a dv situation

    I've been a praise junkie for most of my life ( seems like I'm doing a lot of "I"

    Nonny, I seem to put homebirthers on another level - they are more assertive, more intelligent, more worthy, so it crashes me back to earth that you're "normal" and I'm "normal". I inspires me.

    Veritas, I have seen this growth and have grinned with joy for you.

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    I always try to be assertive, but I'm sure I have been all of the above in my 3+ years at the Hub.

    Meh......



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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    I always try to be assertive, but I'm sure I have been all of the above in my 3+ years at the Hub.

    Meh......



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    LOL...

    Me too..

    I remember a few years back, finding myself on another forum and reading that people saw me as massively passive aggressive.
    I was in shock...I mean I probably was but I didnt mean to be so awful. It had been a learned behaviour, or survival method.

    I know I was pretty passive as well , but for years I had no voice, all of a sudden i have one and no bloody idea how to use it! lol.

    I think I am getting better. no where near assertive but not nearly as passive/passive aggressive.

    I am so overly self centered and sensitive though and can manage to make anything about me..its a skill and am trying to work out how to use it for good!

    but I am proud of how far I have come. I am a work in progress and starting to work out how to use my voice...

    (lets hope its for good and not evil..bwahahahahaah)

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    Quote Originally Posted by delirium View Post
    I always try to be assertive, but I'm sure I have been all of the above in my 3+ years at the Hub.

    Meh......



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    I reckon you probably have, ( as have I..in freakin' spades!) but I also think that you have been true to who you are, and that you are kind and thoughtful, and a critical thinker.


 

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