Absolutely heart broken!!

**Jesska** · 09-02-2011 19:54

Today I found out that I am expecting again.... I love my 3 kids don't get me wrong but we decided thats it... 3 is enough, done. But nope those 2 lines come up on the test today. I am so upset about this. I dont want the baby. I have a 5, 3 and 17 month old and I dont think I could handle another one. I still breastfeed DD, and havent had my period since having her. AND I am on the 3 month injection!!!
How did this happen

I did the clear blue test and it came up with 3+ so 5 weeks, so contraception would have happened 3 weeks + ago.
I am shattered I dont want this baby, but DH wont let me get rid of the baby.
Absolutely heart broken!!!

**GirlsRock** · 09-02-2011 19:57

Oh I dont really know what to say but wanted to send you some big big hugs. I guess the only thing I can say is that "everything happens for a reason" and when you are holding your new bub in your arms maybe it'll all be different.

Big hugs, I hope everything works out for you.

**The Fox** · 09-02-2011 20:02

I think you should talk to your husband some more, he cant or shouldnt make you do anything you dont want to

**The Fox** · 09-02-2011 20:13

I think you should talk to your husband some more, he cant or shouldnt make you do anything you dont want to

**Jesska** · 09-02-2011 20:29

and whats hard is i dont even know when i conceived how far along am i?? the last time i had a normal period was dec 2008!

**OJandMe** · 09-02-2011 20:46

sweetheart. I just want to give you a

It will be okay. You CAN do this. But can I make a very strong suggestion..... Get your DH to have a vasectomy while you're pregnant.

This is how I felt with my last child, DH wasn't ready either, we were still trying to decide if we even wanted another child when we found out I was pg.

abortion was not an option for us either.

And now we have Lysander, he's 7 months old and absolutely the....most....awesome..... baby on the planet.

You can make all the decisions to make it easier on yourself.

If you're sick of breastfeeding, don't breastfeed the next baby. If you don't want to carry them around all the time, don't.. get DH on board to make sure that you can get as much help as you can with this last baby.

The bigger kids will probably be good helpers with a baby.

You can do this. you CAN, but seriously get DH to think about a vasectomy. As much as I grieve not having a daughter, I love LOVE that I can finally have a normal sexual relationship with DH without always stressing about falling pregnant. And I love the freedom I get from that.

And I absolutely adore my last little man. Just as you will this baby.

**share a book** · 09-02-2011 20:59

I don't know what to say but can honestly say that I have felt the same as you are right now, not knowing how it happened (well obviously, but not being able to come to terms with it) not having any understanding of WHY it happened, not feeling like anything would make it alright. Well she's 7 now and the best decision I ever made was to keep her. She goes to school and does music and is into sports, she's a delightful little girl and I feel a little guilty thinking of all the times I told her (when pregnant of course, not now lol) that I didn't want to be pregnant and told her to "just go away" and cried myself to sleep at night. So in light of all that, I wanted to send you some

and some good vibes to keep you strong so you can make a decision on what to do next, and try to talk your DH into having a vasectomy.

**DaughteroftheForest** · 09-02-2011 21:07

Originally Posted by OJandMe

sweetheart. I just want to give you a

It will be okay. You CAN do this. But can I make a very strong suggestion..... Get your DH to have a vasectomy while you're pregnant.

.

I agree.

I hope things work out for you hon.

**MrsShe** · 09-02-2011 21:10

oh honey

ive just found out im expecting another too - was a surprise also. You CAN do it hun. I agree with ojandme - id have a talk to C about having the snip