Our Mums

[MissBrightside]

I love my mum dearly, but she drives me nuts sometimes.
I have been a single mum for 7 months now and my mum has been a bit of a rock for me. But I still feel like she dosent understand sometimes. Some things I feel I just can't dicuss with her cos she just dosen't get it. I don't live with her but see her fairly often.
My ex has been starting to take my boys every second weekend for the night. I was so depressed at first, but I'm starting to realise that my life isn't over and I want to have a bit of fun. I am a responsible mum to my boys I would never do anything to put them in danger and they get the best of everything. I love them as any ,other would.
The thing is when I tell my mum I'm going out, she says just remember your a mum now you have to get up tomorrow. It's like she thinks I'm an idiot. I know I have 2 kids and I always put them before myself, thats why I want to enjoy the time I have away from them so I can be a bit selfish for the night.
I told her I wanted to get another peircing, I get remember your a mum now. It just irritates me cos yeah I know Im a mum but I'm also me. Just because I'm a mum dosen't mean I have to give up everything I like.
She always asks me if my phone rings when I'm at her place who was that. I'm 28 next week and I know she is just worried about me, but I just wish she'd give me a bit of respect that I know what I'm doing. I think she thinks of me as her little girl still.
Another thing that bugs me is that she talks for me sometimes. If someone asks me something about the boys, she jumps in and answers before I get a chance. I don't say anything to her cos she's my mum and I respect her but it drives me nuts.
Sorry just a bit of a rant.
Does anyone elses mums do this?

[Mum2Bug]

The world - I JUST WANT 5 MINUTES TO FEEL LIKE AN INDIVIDUAL PERSON, NOT JUST A MUM. YES I KNOW IM A MUM BUT IM ALSO A PERSON IN MY OWN RIGHT. I HAVE MY OWN WANTS AND NEEDS TOO! DAMN IM NOT GOING TO WIN THIS ONE AM I? NO I DIDN'T THINK SO EITHER!

I once posted this on another thread and and as soon as I saw your post I went looking for my old one. I know how you feel in some ways. Not with my mum though, just people in general who are in my life.

[bronny-jane]

do what i have started doing, let her know you apperciate her concern and help, but she's raised her kids, now its your turn.

i think the problem is that you are her little girl and she does want whats best for you and your kids....the thing is our generation is very different from theirs

whats best for us is a night out to cut loose of all the responsibilties we do have, peircings are a part of life and yes mothers do have them

i think you need to have a big long chat with her and explain how it makes you feel...i know not so easy cause she's your mum and you dont want to hurt her feelings

[new_mummy82]

i love my mum to bits......but she drives me nutz too! altho ever since i found i was pg i have a whole new respect for her and i expect that will grow even more when bub arrives! my mum and i have had a bit of rocky relationship but we are getting better! we CANNOT live in the same house together and i now live 1200 km away! and we get along perfectly lol. she really is a beautiful person and i can see that now i only wish i had seen it sooner! i can't wait til january so i can give her a great big hug and she can meet her beautiful granddaughter or grandson

[spiritedfamily]

I'm 28 next week and I know she is just worried about me, but I just wish she'd give me a bit of respect that I know what I'm doing. I think she thinks of me as her little girl still.

I so hear what your saying...I'm over 30 and I still struggle to get her to understand I'm not a little girl anymore. When she talks to other people about me - she speaks the world of me (my Dad does this too) but when she talks to me - she doesn't see that I'm a woman now, well occasionally I get lucky and we have a good day.

Sometimes I want to leave the city to establish ourselves as our own family unit and other times, I can keep a healthy distance where I am.