Is there a book to teach about a child's biological dad?

**nicole83** · 27-01-2011 13:24

Hi ladies, my friend wants to tell her young daughter that her dad isn't her biological dad (her biological dad is completely off the scene)... I suggested that there might be a story book along these lines that she could read to her daughter to help explain this. I have googled for ages now and can't find anything!! please help, have you heard of any books like this??

Thanks ladies

**twotrunks** · 27-01-2011 13:27

I have not but am watching this thread with interest

**nicole83** · 27-01-2011 14:50

arghh it's doing my head in!! I have kept googling and looking up bookstores and found nothing!!

**Hokey Pokey** · 27-01-2011 14:51

Not that I know of sorry?
How old is the daughter?

**SimpsonDesert** · 27-01-2011 14:59

Sorry, I can't recommend a book about it, but my Mum had this particular chat with me when I was young. I'll never forget the moment she told me that my Dad wasn't my biological father.

I was 9 yrs old and the conversation was raised because my biological father, who had NEVER been around, decided he wanted to meet me. My Mum said to me that my Dad will always be my Dad and nothing would change it, and he loved me just as if I was his own little girl and he always had from the time he met my Mum (when I was 1yr old). I accepted that and was fine with it. The only 'icky' feeling I ever got was knowing that my brother was only my half-brother, to this day I'm not sure why that particular aspect made me feel funny. I never felt any differently towards my Dad after finding out, and I was always treated as a full blood daughter by him and his side of the family.

I was given the choice as to whether or not I wanted to meet my biological father, and I said no. As far as I was concerned I only needed one Dad and my 'real' father, whoever he was, didn't deserve to know me.

I hope you get a more helpful response from someone regarding a book on the subject.

**DaughteroftheForest** · 27-01-2011 15:03

I don't know of one, sorry. But I'm sure there must be one out there. My mum recently found a book explaining to small children that Mummy has multiple personality disorder! So I'm guessing that there would have to be one explaining that Daddy sin't really Daddy.

Perahps, if you can't get your hands on one, make one yourself? It wouldn't be that hard to explain that Bio dad was the one that helped Mummy make DD, but for whatever vague reason he had to go away, and that Step dad was the one who who wanted to be DD's dadduy more than anything.

Just a thought. Let us know how it goes though!

**nicole83** · 27-01-2011 15:14

thanks ladies

she is 5 years old...she plans on having the chat soon. I just can't believe how hard it is to find!! there are storybooks on everything...gay parents, adoption...even specific country adoption!!!

**Bubbles10** · 27-01-2011 17:15

Not quite sure if this is relevant or not but VARTA (Victorian Assisted Reproductive Treatment Authority) have info on their website on telling children about their conceptions using donor sperm.

**TurnedBatty** · 27-01-2011 17:51

I like what daughteroftheforest said.

I know that happens alot with adoption, so maybe she could make a laminated book with photos and everything about it. Photos of them all together, photos showing that the dad really does love her. Simple statements (Just as example) "Being a dad means loving you." etc etc. Maybe consult a child psychologist for ideas on wording???

**nicole83** · 27-01-2011 20:45

thanks ladies...i found one...not quite what I was looking for but still discusses all the different types of families and paves the way for her to talk about their specific situation...http://www.amazon.com/Family-Book-To...bxgy_b_img_b#_