A little Help

[wannabedad]

Hi,

New to this so please forgive my all over nature. My wife was 10 - 11 weeks pregnant and till last week everything was fine till our obstetrician couldnt find the heart beat and then panic stations occurred and another more powerful ultrasound was used and then it was confirmed..not heart beat... My wife had a D and C performed yesterday and that was all ok, but now there is feeling of sadness that is with us both... about the possibilities of what could have been and now what!!!! Life can be so cruel and there are people that smoke drink and they drop them out like litters and we try for one and this happens.... Yep I am angry about the whole thing. I dont know how my wife is feeling...all I can be is supportive and be there for her, but I also feel so helpless.... Is there any advice that anyone can pass on...anything at all that is going to help her..or is this a time thing and with time heals all wounds.

At no point can I say what it feels to have a loss like this..having something that is part of you for sometime then taken away. I just want to heal my wifes broken heart.

Again apologies if I have a/ offended anyone and b/ rambled too much

Regards


SP

[sandramm1]

Oh SP to you and your dear wife. It is a horrible thing that has happened, and it certainly seems so unfair and unjust that bad things happen to good people. Every loss that we have we need to grieve for it and we all do it in our own way, some people cry, some get angry, some throw themselves into activity to avoid thinking about it, and some of us do all of this in a day. Just let your wife know that you are there for her whenever she wants to talk, no judgement, just to listen and support and that whatever she needs you will help her get it.

Good luck in your quest for a baby- it is often a journey fraught with loss, hardship and mixed emotions, but at the end of that hard journey is the most beautiful thing you you will ever see- the miracle of life.

If your wife wants to share her loss there are plenty of threads on here that are truly inspiring.

[3boysNAprincess]

I'm sorry for your loss

[lovemybabies!]

Very sorry for your loss. Hugs to both you and your wife.

[colenso]

I'm new to this forum myself and my husband and I have just lost our baby due to an ectopic pregnancy. All you can do is just be there for each other and as I am learning it is ok to cry......I joined this site last night looking for answers but it does help talking about it and especially sharing with other people who have gone thru similar things
My heart goes out to u both it is just so heart renching!

[Jenga]

Im sorry for your loss. I had a m/c in Oct. It is very sad and you do question why me?? over and over again. How can others who do the wrong thing have healthy pregnancies & the ones that try to do everything right suffer a loss. You will go through sad times and you might feel numb at times. Just be sure to discuss your feelings openly with each other & lean on each other through this tough time. Fingers crossed that your partner will have a healthy pregnancy soon.