Would you let your 16 year old...

**trishalishous** · 18-01-2011 18:15

I probably would, to not be a hypocrite.
I was 18 when DH and I met and there's nearly 8years age difference

**Hollywood** · 18-01-2011 18:25

Yes, I would. I went out with a 27 year old when I was 17 (in Norway). My parents figured that if they tried to stop me I may just run off and marry him, so they let it run it's course. I appreciated what my parents did and after nearly a year I ended the relationship anyway when I realised it wasn't the right one for me.

**luvmysweeties** · 22-03-2011 23:49

Sounds like you have a great relationship with your daughter

I would let her go.

I was 16 when I started seeing a 19 year old boy. We fell in love pretty quickly and moved in together 1 year later. Fast forward 16 years and we are still together and still in love

I'm not saying this boy could be your future son-inlaw, but she obviously likes him a lot and the feelings sound mutual. She's responsible and you trust her and he also seems to be a descent guy. As you said she isn't far from 18 so she is ready to make these decisions. Whatever the outcome of the dinner date, she will know you will always be there for her.

**earlgrey** · 23-03-2011 00:13

no. I am a mean mother lol

**trishalishous** · 23-03-2011 00:43

I agree,let her go!
I married a man 8 years older than me at 19

**Jensha** · 23-03-2011 02:06

id be more worried that he dumped his girlfriend so fast for your dd and what if he does the same thing to her when another girl comes along. The age gap isnt a worry though. But i dont think you can stop her. If you try it will make her want him more. Something like the twilight movies wanting what you cant have lol. If you'd rather be in the loop and not have her start to lie then id let her go so she see's you as supportive

**Autumncurl** · 23-03-2011 02:27

Yes & no - make him meet you invite him to dinner - if he is serious enough to do that then should be ok.
I met my Dh when I was 20 and he was freshly 18 and I have been with him ever since.
However when I was 15 I ran away from home as I wanted to date a 23 man while my mother was right she banned my from all social life and in the end I wasn't allowed to go to school as she thought I'd get a MSG to him via friends.. I ended up pregnant at 17 - beaten abused and in a very bad state.
You need to judge the boys chacter as teenage girls sometimes can't see the forest for the trees

but it's also so so important to keep a good relationship with your daughter.

**Ana Gram** · 23-03-2011 08:59

Nope, but I am mean too. I'd also be concerned about the dumping of the old girlfriend for your daughter, like a previous poster.

I'd be telling my DD that if they were keen enough, they could wait until she was an adult.

**Hera** · 23-03-2011 09:25

I fail to see a problem with it, so I would allow.

**River Song** · 23-03-2011 09:36

Originally Posted by Jensha

id be more worried that he dumped his girlfriend so fast for your dd and what if he does the same thing to her when another girl comes along.

this would be my issue too.

i'd want to know more about the breakup...but i would prob chat to her about why i would find that a concern and advise her to tread carefully.

i'd let her go but would be picking her up from the restaurant after their dinner lol