I know it must be hard coming to terms with the fact that your DH didn't provide the sperm to make your little person but you will work through those emotions. Can I just say that the most important man in my life aside from my DH is my father. We are joined in every way except blood. There were a different set of circumstances and I had to wait until I was 11 to meet him (my 'real' dad was in and out of our lives when it suited him) but my life is richer for having him in it. Your baby will always be safe and secure with the knowledge that they were wanted so desperately and I am absolutely sure they will feel loved unconditionally by the both of you. I haven't said that in the way I could in person so I hope it gives you comfort and strength.