Christmas message to the long time ivfers!

**nevergivenup** · 14-12-2010 14:23

Hi girls,

I just wanted to encourage you all, as I know how hard this time of the year is when all you want is a baby! I have been there believe me! After 4 years of IVF, 14 cycles, 2 ectopic pregnancy's, 1 miscarriage and the loss of a triplet, plus near death experience upon labour due to severe pre-eclamsia that saw me nearly bleed to death before a hysterectomy was needed, then spending 16 days in hospital 8 of which were in intensive care, I can most certainly relate to those of you who have been trying for a long time. I can remember only all to clearly how my heart used to break as the year came to a close and I would feel like another year had passed and I still wasn't pregnant. Not to mention watching all my friends with their babies and children share in the excitement of Christmas. I know it's hard.

Good news is, good things come to those who wait! I can testify to that one as all my patience, tears, sadness, longing did finally see me blessed doubly with twins! Remember, it's not just about getting our dream bubbas but also about the journey. "have a listen to Miley Cyrus's song "the Climb". Sends me to tears every time! Everything you are going through right now is building character, perseverence and strength in you. At least now that I reflect on my journey I can see that now.

Hang in there, there the perfect embryo just waiting to be discovered and I truely believe that God has predestined your little one ahead of time and only he knows when their conception and birth will take place.

I am so thankful to now be celebrating my very first Christmas with my twin baby boy's. Their smiles, their laughter, their cuddles, makes everything I went through so worth it. If I had to do it all over again I would!

All my love

NGU xo

**lilybaby** · 14-12-2010 16:03

Thank you so much for your message, it was just what I needed to read today.
I hope you have an amazing 1st Christmas with your beautiful boys.

**second baby not so easy** · 14-12-2010 16:04

NGU - wow your story goes to show how dedicated some of us are! Enjoy

with ur little men! Thanks for a positive post!

**Amandamoo** · 14-12-2010 16:20

NGU - that is just lovely. You have made me

. So glad to hear you were blessed with two beautiful boys. Enjoy their first Christmas

.
Thanks for the positive vibes, you have truly made my day with such encouraging words.

Merry Christmas to you and your family.

Amandamoo

**Starf1sh** · 14-12-2010 18:21

NGU, thank you SO much for thinking of us long term ivfer's!

No-one gets it like someone who has been there and your message really touched me and helped to give me hope and strength for what lies ahead...(hopefully a sticky BFP really soon!)

I followed your story and pregnancy with earnest and was so pleased to hear that your precious little boys were finally delivered to you (and not without trials and tribulations). You are a beacon of hope and inspiration for so many of us. I wish the most fantastic Christmas with your beautiful family of 4

**nevergivenup** · 15-12-2010 11:29

Thanks girls, I just wanted so much to encourage you as I know how we set ourselves goals for the end of the year and how Christmas can be just the hardest time when your doing IVF, especially with clinic closures etc.

One more thing "Never Give Up". I used to explain to people that my determination in comparison would be like a parent searching to the ends of the earth to find a cure for a sick child, only for IVFers it happens in reverse. We are searching for cures to nurture our embryos to see them grow into beautiful little babies.

I was even told by a IVF Professor that I should consider when I should give up! I remember my throat closing over and holding back tears at his words. All I could think of, was they have given up on me and that they had run out of tests, solutions and ideas. Cried all the way home! Thank goodness I didn't give up!!!!!

Again, have a Merry Christmas xo

**Frostysmum** · 15-12-2010 12:18

Thank you NGU. I too have been following your arduous journey. The end results pay. You give me hope and inspiration to not give up.

**Irene1971** · 15-12-2010 20:09

Thank you NGU for the kindness to think of us all at this time.

**Always Hoping** · 16-12-2010 10:26

NGU - what a truly wonderful, kind person you are. Your TTC journey has been to some pretty dark places but the rewards for your determination have paid off. Congratulations on your 1st Christmas with your little men (and DH). I often think of my journey and the loss of one of my twins and think I had obstacles..........you really are made of the tough stuff.

Christmas is a hard time for anyone who is still TTC but I always used to look at it and think "well how exciting will next Christmas be? I could either be PG or have a little one". It would make me feel peaceful inside and settle me. I would then look at my nephews and niece and see how happy they were and what a wonderful family I belong to and realise that I am blessed in many ways. I would always think "even if I never have a child/ren of my own........the enjoyment I get from them is very special".

I too want to wish everyone a very merry christmas and a safe and happy new year. Look to the future with an open heart and I truly hope all your dreams come true. Whether you are religious or not....................whatever God or power you believe in...........remember they have your interests at heart and know when it is the right time for your little one to join you. I truly believe our babies choose us and it is just a matter of time (and a lot of patience) to wait for them to be ready to join us in our lives. They know when it is the right time.

Love and peace to all
xx