Which would you prefer?

[chelez]

Hard pregnancy or hard newborn?

Had quite a few friends with newborns lately and ive notice a trend.. those who flew through their pregnancy seem to be having the MOST diffucult time with sick / grizzly / refluxy newborns...

While those that suffered in pregnancy seem to be having a blissful newborn time..

I know it can go either way but....

If there was some magic option what would you choose? a horrid pregnancy or a horrid newborn stage?

[elleandsam]

Well seeing as I don't have a choice at this point I'm hoping the hard pregnancy easy baby myth has some truth to it, hear that universe you owe me one!

[MagicalLeopluradon]

I would choose a hard pregnancy.

When I was pregnant with DS1, it was pretty good actually until I got till 30 weeks and I had lots of fluid, was under a lot of stress at work and was basically told to stop working by my doctor, no morning sickness either.

When I was pregnant with DS2, it was pretty crappy...I only had a 6 week break between pregnancies so I suffered from really bad back and leg pain from 11 weeks, sometimes I could barely move. No morning sickness though.

I was pretty lucky I guess because I didn't have any problems with my boys when they were newborns, they were good sleepers, eaters etc

[sammyplus3]

niether

i had a bliss first preg and had a bliss baby
2nd preg was horrid at the end (mainly throat infection) and dd2 is a little pain in the butt and a big tantrum chucker but thats just her
3rd preg bliss hardly any probs and ds is pretty great

i dont think your preg has anything to do with your baby after

[kar]

oh elle, it sure does and if i can wish this to be true for anyone it is you

out of my group of friends i would have to say it has been true for two of us (me - easy peasy pregnancy, hell infant friend the reverse) and not true for one. She had an average to hard pregnancy (nothing dramatic just not great) and a hard baby.

i don't know what i would prefer tbh. At least with the hellish infant you have the babe to love (most of the time) where as it's all a bit abstract when you are sick and the babe is still on the inside.

i think i'd prefer easy pregnancy hard baby.

[chelez]

Yeh i know one doesnt predict the other - just a bit of fun hearing peoples views

Ive had SUCH an easy pregnancy even now its soooooo easy..(touch wood) im yet to find out the other side

[xxkristyxx]

It's all myths, it isn't true.. Don't stress. I had a cruisey pregnancy and a cruisey baby. All good, and I know how lucky I am for that.

If I had to choose I'd prefer a hard pregnancy over a hard baby.

[chelez]

guys just so we are CLEAR i have said twice i know it isnt true !!! it's just a bit of fun !!

I am just asking if there was some miracle 'option' out there and you could pick one which would you pick !!!

I KNOW ONE DOESNT PREDICT THE OTHER !!!!

[Uh-Oh]

I'd definetly pick hard pregnancy and hope for an easy baby! Atleast you know that the pregnancy is eventaully going to end. Hard newborn... well that could go on forever!!!!!

(*ps - i ws lucky and had great pregnancy, labour and newborn... buuttt I was one of 5 of my friends who were pregnant at the same time and 3 others had hard hard pregnancies and perfect little babies. One had a breeze like me and is still struggling her little DS!)

[chelez]

Yeh i imagine a hard pregnancy may be easier than a hard newborn BUT...

Ive heard of some pretty shocking pregnancies that i wouldnt wish on anyone..

and some pretty shocking newborns too.. lucky we dont get the choice i guess