Four year old still in nappies?

[peanutbutter&jelly]

Ok, if that's what's going on - and honestly, seeing her once every couple of months isn't an accurate picture, then her mother needs a HUGE wake up call. The toilet trainging needs to be followed up - why, whether they've trued - you said her grandmother + aunt talk to her - would they have tried? What about CC? If there are other problems there, impacting TT.

Formula... well, giving it additionally to solids is fine I guess, bit odd but nothing too unusual, but no many other solids? Is she on a prescription formula, and is there other issues there maybe? Any chance she's seeing a speech therapist or OT for oral aversion issues??

Why isn't anyone else doing anything for her

[delirium]

If her mother is not interested in being her mother why is she with her? All of those things sound concerning and I would be worried about her wellbeing, is she in a normal weight range? Personally if I knew a child whose main source of nutrition at age 4 was formula, was still in nappies, in a household who seemed to not want her or talk to her I'd be reporting to docs with a concern for her wellbeing.

If you feel your child is not being adequately cared for then maybe you need to report to DOCS or look at custody? If things are as bad as you say you need to do more than just get a toilet training plan in place.

[serendipity22]

seeing her once every couple of months isn't an accurate picture,

yes, thats quite right. Ive been going there more recently
and a few previous assumptions have turned out to be false (unfortunately).

then her mother needs a HUGE wake up call.

knowing what I know, thats the understatement of the year.

If things are as bad as you say you need to do more than just get a toilet training plan in place.

I hardly know where to start.

[Just Add Water]

You can have the police do a welfare check on your daughter - this is done by contacting the police station and providing address and other information. You can also contact the Children's welfare dept in that state and tell them your concerns. If you are aware of any daycare that is provided then you can give that information to the welfare dept as well so they can follow up there too.

P.S apologies for the assumption I made that you were the mother and your daughter was with her father.

[Boobycino]

Are you able to see her more often? Move closer if she's a long way away, have her with you as joint custody, or even every 2nd weekend so she has one parent actively in her life who cares for her, if not full custody?



It would tear me in half if I didn't have Jasper and I couldn't help, the thought of it just crushes my chest

Goodluck.

Though, I think all in context, I worked in childcare and knew loved cared for cherished 4 year olds who still wore nappies and Seeing as the global *natural* weaning age for children is 4 I don't see an issue with a 4 year old having a bottle, they should have some form of milk or dairy, so how they drink it isn't a drama IMO.

But all in context, if your concern, do whatever you can to fix the situation

[zombiekitty]

Ultimately I think the bigger issue is why isn't she eating and still on formula - that is what I'd be getting looked at before worrying about nappies.

I have to agree.

[peanutbutter&jelly]

I think the first thing is to file a report with DOCS especially in regards to the concern with solid foods

[serendipity22]

More than 6 months later and the girl is nearly five. Eating a slightly range of foods but still 3 bottles of formula a day. No fruit except cherries. No vegetables except cucimber. Mostly pasta and bread. A little bit of ham and chicken. Still in nappies.

[bellalika]

Well, there have been some improvements at least. Perhaps another wellness check with the same GP so that the records of her last check can be compared?

[flyawayfree]

Has she got a medical condition at all, or has she been seen by a pediatrician?