people with 3 children

**shellsbubs** · 01-09-2006 11:59

Hello just curious how some people are going with their 3 darlings, is it easier caring for the third baby now you have the experience, routine, little helper's? Another question is did people find all their births similar eg. arriving on time, were after pains worse with each baby? Anyway hope to hear from people

**fozzie** · 01-09-2006 12:07

Hi just wanted to say that I too would love to hear what everyone has to say about this as we have just stated TTC#3.

**FourAngelKisses** · 01-09-2006 12:12

All 3 of my births and labours were similar, can't say I noticed anything different really. Except I had a 3hr transition stage with my first which was total hell as transition should only be 30mins.
As for easier to look after, I'd have to say yes. But my older kids were 5 and 6 when I had my third, so they didn't really need to be looked after as much. They did help out a little when he was younger, now that he is older, they have more to do with him.

HTH....good luck with TTC.

**Jem** · 01-09-2006 12:21

my last pregnancy was very different..
first two i had to be induced and went 2 weeks past my due date,
ds2 came smack bang on his due date.. no need for induction, My after pains were verrrry painful with the 3rd

**shellsbubs** · 01-09-2006 12:26

thanks- that has helped - well my first two pregnancies were both two weeks overdue and was induced both times which frustrated me and secondly after birth of number two i had terrible after pains and was told by my aunt that they get worse with each pregnancy so thats why i was curious.anyone esle with similar experiences?

**FourAngelKisses** · 01-09-2006 12:30

Afterpains....I forgot about those, lol. I had none with my first and horrible ones with my second. They weren't as bad with my 3rd (from what I can remember). I'll have to let you know how they are after my 4th.

**EskimoMumma** · 11-09-2006 20:21

I am currenly expecting my third.

In terms of labour, DS was 12hrs, DD was 6. So will be interesting this time around. (i am more scared because DS was 8lb 12ozs and DD was 10lb 8ozs so uhm hmm.. whats this one, a 12 pounder?

)

It is easier and of course more busier, if you value "me" time. you are most likely going to have to lessen the amount of it you get.

**bubblesox** · 16-09-2006 13:35

I'm reading this post with interest as I have two children and am constantly thinking about whether to have a third. I don't yet feel complete but I don't want 4 but am scared 3 won't 'work'. I wish I had a crystal ball!!!

**TigerBlueBear** · 05-09-2006 23:03

I found my third baby easy to cope with until we went away on holidays and buggered up her sleep routine - long story. My eldest was 5 when she came along and was great at helping by being able to pass me things etc, the next in line was 3 and he was no longer needy on me. I involved both boys in the care of their sister and had no jealousy issues from either. I found going from one child to two children harder than going from two to three. We already had our routine down pat and she just fitted into it.

My births were all very different from each other:

Tiger - uncomplicated pregnancy, private obstetrician, born on due date 7.45am, heaps of unnecessary intervention leading to an emergency csec. Hospital stay 10 days. All the normal issues of recovering physically and emotionally from a csec with a newborn to care for. 8lb 12oz. Minimal afterpains but lots of csec scar pain for 6mths finally subsiding to nothing by about to years later. Breastfed for 6 months.

Blue - uncomplicated pregnancy, much fitter this time, private obstetrician, VBAC birth -10 EDD at 6.15pm, 27 hr labour well supported by a fantastic midwife I hired to be with me. 8lb 1oz. Hospital stay 3 days. Some afterpains, needed panadol. Breastfed for 9 months.

Bear - uncomplicated pregnancy, put on heaps of weight, birth centre midwives, waterbirth, 4.5hrs labour, born EDD +4 at 12.40am. 9lb. Went home later that day - felt fantastic. Some afterpains maybe slightly worse than with Blue but panadol still worked. Breastfed for 15 months.

**MummyCharmzy** · 05-09-2006 23:15

A few things already mentioned I agree with... positive wise... you know what you're doing and do it. You don't worry so much about 'milestones' because after having your second you realise how incredibly different every baby REALLY is and they do things when they're ready.. not when you are

Also the after pain thing.. I had my 3rd csect and the afterpains were 100times worse than the csect pain... I've never experienced a 'real' contraction in labour but trust me.. it must have compared... they built up in pain and lasted around a minute each time for me, I could not speak all i could do was basically moan and pant through them.. and beg for drugs... morphine was my saviour for the first 5 days.... they were KILLERS... I had bad pains like this for a good 5 weeks after giving birth... not sure if its normal or not but when I was feeding especially I just wanted to curl up and make the pain go away. they scare me about having my 4th much more than the csect pain ill experience again.