tantrums at 1year old

[jessica]

Hi,

My little one who has just turned one is quite a drama queen like her mother! She is very highly strung and a real mummys girl!! Yesterday she threw her first tantrum! She just sat there and screamed a shrill high pitch yell, red face, tears the works!! She wanted to be carried (she wants this alot lately!).. the question is how do I stop the tantys before they become an everyday affair! I feel that because she cant communicate yet she gets frustrated and has no other way of letting me know when she needs something.. am I just making excuses? How do you deny a gorgeous baby a cuddle when they need it? Am I creating a monster?

Advice please!

[cleighsa]

wow my 13mth old did almost the same thing yesterday. and i was shocked. we were at playgroup and she had been playing with a particualar toy most of the morning, she put i down for 5mins and another little girl picked it up and as soon as elli saw her with it she screamed and screamed.
i tried to calmly tell her no it was the other little girls turn, and just ignore the screams but it ws soo hard. i too dont know how too react to this stuff and i just want to give her cuddles. i thought tantys would be a while off yet but boy was i wrong.
good luck
sorry i dont have any help to offer but i do know what ur going throu
leighsa

[JanetF]

This really helped me deal with how I felt about tanties. I hope it helps you too!
http://www.mothering.com/articles/gr.../tantrums.html

[MoushiMoushi]

Our son started at about 10 months, he'd throw himself on the floor and cry. We started noticing that he would look up at us to make sure we were watching and if by chance he had a captive audience he'd start crying louder. I am a teacher but have only ever worked with kids from 4 years so was at a loss at first. By trial and error I worked out that if we ignored his tantrum he'd stop, sometimes it works other times he follows us around the house and will throw him self down where ever we are. Its actually quite cute now (14 months old) and he doesnt cry any more just lays his head on the floor for a few secs then when theres no response from us he gets up and walks away
Our big thing at the moment is not going in the kitchen (as ours has a very wide opening and I cant find a gate long enough to close it) I'd shake my head and say "No kitchen" in firm voice, he smiles back and says "nonononono" while shaking his head. Then he'll proceed to walk right in. So we've taken a hard line on this one (due to dangerous items like oven etc) and have inforced our "NO TOLERANCE" policy.....if our son goes in the kitchen then he gets put in "The Pen" his play pen for 5-10 mins. It has taken us about a week and about a million visits to the pen but he has finally gotten the message (i hope )

[rynosmum]

My 15 month old does the same thing ! From about 12 months, he'd throw himself on the floor, realised that it hurt his head if he did it too quickly so now he lies down and ever so gently puts his head down before he starts. We also chose to ignore the tantrums and they are now very short lived.

He has just started trying to roll over on the change table and screaming until he gets his own way. For the past couple of days, I have just looked away but held him (gently) on his back until he calms down, then I sit him up and give him a big cuddle.

He also knows 'no touching' so doesn't often touch things that he's not supposed to - although he does try it on sometimes.

With the kitchen, I've given him a cupboard full of tupperware and things that he can play with and put magnets on the fridge. He knows that he can touch 'his' things but he doesn't try to touch anything else.

Not sure of the right answers for this - I'm just an "L" plater myself !