Enough Support?

[Rianna]

Just wondering if those of you have gone through a pregnancy loss feel as though you were offerred sufficient support. I'm not sure what everyone else's experience has been but I recently miscarried my second child this year and was givena curette and then told to "go home and be miserable". I wasn't given any info about what to expect physically in terms of bleeding, pain, recovery time and I certainly wasn't offerred or recommended any emotional help. I just feel that I could have been better supported.

[Magnus]

Hi Rianna!! I had a m/c 2 months ago and like you never got any info about what to expect physically or any info re where to get emotional support. My DF and Mum were brilliant but it was scary not knowing what was normal after i had my curette and it was hard not having anyone to talk to that had suffered a similar loss recently enough to understand how raw it all feels. I only discovered this site yesterday and am addicted already - how nice it is to talk freely to other women who understand exactly the sadness and uncertainty a m/c brings. I am sending a truckload of baby dust and smiles your way.

[becstar]

I agree, for something that is so common there is just not enough information and support out there. Its almost like the doctors think "oh its so common, she'll get over it"....and don't even give it another support.
I never realised how bad it could be until I had a m/c late last year.....even though I know other friends who have gone through it. Its almost like you just suffer through in silence....and then you only talk about it to people who have been through it themselves (cos they understand). The only support out there is from other people who have suffered through it themselves.

Bec

[allalone]

Hey Rianna

You will always find enough support and valuable information on Bub-Hub. Feel free to PM me. I have recently gone through an M/C and we can share our sorrw together.

Ask any question and the girls would be there to support you and answer your query in the bst possible way...

[Adria]

Im so sorry to all of you who don't feel as if they have had enough support.
With my m/c, i found all the staff really friendly and caring. I had a support person come around from a womens league? i can't remember what they were called, offering support and information.
My own dr said if i just wanted to talk, that he was available just to talk to.
I might add that i did go through the public system...
to you all, i know it can be a tough time!