I'm having trouble juggling the priorities of a 3 year old and a 15 year old! My SIL desperately needs me and 90%of the time I manage to be there but I feel awful. She needs someone, deserves someone 100% of the time. She knows I'm always there but I have to say I'll be there for you IF I can. I hate it.
How can I sit up with her until 2am when I have to be up at 6am with DS, take a 2 hour drive to visit family and then deal with the ailments of pregnancy. Her Mums not there as she left them and her Dad tries but she's not comfotable with him helping her.
She's got a bad urinary tract infection and asked her mum to take her to the Dr but she said she was off to the coast for the weekend so I took her. FIL was upset she didn't want him. I bought her antibiotics and I've sat with her for most of the day/night. I can't do more though, I'm exhausted.
My Mum always sat with me, looked after me but I have a toddler and a baby on the way. Is it fair if I put DS second to look after her? If I sit up until 2am I can't be up 3-4 hours later so he misses out. However SIL is sore, crying and rejected by her mum. A once off is easy but frequently is so hard.
I just dint know how to split myself. I desperatly want to be the 'Mum' she deserves and I had but how can I do it? She told me tonight that she wishes she could live with me and she wishes I was her Mum .