I am not concerned about getting monitoring. I went to the dr once with J at 34w I think. My gp just checked my blood pressure and urine. She was not impressed with my plans to hb (she didn't know it was to be unassisted).
This time I have not had any checks as I haven't felt it necessary. I know I get low iron so I have been taking Spatone. I am a believer in having a good diet, getting enough rest and exercise, its really helped me.
I would be only concerned by bleeding apart from what you have mentioned. Having a doula and mw would be helpful in being able to talk out things if you ever feel worried.