Just wanted to share an experience I had today with my kids.
Last day of school holidays so the morning was taken up with stuff that needed to be done - getting car towed to get fixed, washing, cleaning, getting uniforms in order etc, etc...Nothing exciting for the kids, so I thought I'd take them out to buy lunch for a treat before going grocery shopping.
Choice was KFC, and while we were standing in line, they started niggling at each other (nothing new - they love to poke the other one and run around after the other). 9 times out of 10, they'll stand in line patiently, but today they were niggling constantly at each other. I told them to stop 3 times, and warned them that this was a treat lunch, so if I had to tell them to stop touching each other and running around me one more time we'd leave.
Sooo....we get to one from the front of the line and they start again, so I say "Right, I told you both if I had to say stop one more time, we'd leave, so we're leaving".
I walk out, they follow me and both of them have started crying "mummy, no!". We've just got out the front door and a woman comes up to me (she wasn't inside), and said to me "You need to respect your children more".
I said "They were mucking around, I'd warned them 3 times and they did it again, so I followed through on my consequence".
Her - "They're only kids".
I then did say "but this is a treat and I'd warned them", but then thought I should just walk away, so I could talk to my two.
I did ask them if they knew why I'd walked out and DS said "because we didn't stop when you asked" so after talking to them, giving them hugs and saying that's right mummy loves you, but you need to listen etc...
I then got them in the car, buckled them up and took them through the drive through so they got their treat lunch (and I got mine too), but it got me wondering - how does my parenting look to others.
I had two crying children, but I was determined to follow through on my consequence I'd warned. It's the same when I'm in the shops and they want a toy or lollie, I say no and I've always thought, I'll put up with a public tantrum so they know tantrums won't get what they want.
I figure a bit of public embarrassment is worth it for the good of my kids in the long run.
Sorry - just realised how long this is - but was just wondering what you all think?