Please don't worry too much about how your weight is going to effect your pregnancy. You may find that you tire easier or that your blood pressure and weight need to be monitored a little closer than others or your choice of birth centre may be limited but other than that, overweight pregnant women are having beautiful, healthy babies all of the time!
When I am pregnant, despite being obese, you can tell I'm pregnant! I don't have the "basketball stuffed up my shirt" look, but it would take someone pretty stupid to not realise that the lump out the front was all baby!
It makes no different what size you are as to whether you feel kicks. Initially, what you feel are your baby's movements causing your uterus to bump against various internal organs/structures/nerve endings which have absolutely no difference in obese people to thin people. External movements are more restricted by whether you have an anterior placenta or not. I could see my baby moving around in my belly and DH (and the kids) could feel the baby from around 24 weeks. This time, I have an anterior placenta and am only feeling kicks very low so it is possible that movement may not be so easily seen or felt by my family.
Weight has absolutely no bearing on how you birth. I have had caesars due to medical issues completely unrelated to my weight. I know many ladies who have been bigger than me at the time of birth and have gone on to have vaginal births with no complications whatsoever. A caesar should only ever be offered as a last resort and most hospitals have this policy.
I have never been treated "crappy" becasue of my weight. This is my 6th pregnancy and yet again, I am at a different hospital with a different team and have had nothing but fantastic care. Sure, I have been told to try not to put on too much weight, but I am a type 1 diabetic so it is a health issue more than anything. I have never gone private or had a private ob etc and have found that I have been very well looked after every time.
I'm 41 and 22 weeks pregnant with my 7th baby. I have 2 living children and 4 who have passed away at various stages (3 in the second trimester, one at 9 days old). I had my first child at 31yo and found that my easiest pregnancy by far was when I was 38yo! This time, I'm a little more tired but other than that, all is well.
I wish you all the best. You are carrying a much loved and much wanted child - congratulations again!