@JenniwithanI: enjoy your vacation! Now, I am saving all my annual leaves for possible future interstate IVF. No vacation for a while.... Oh...they usually do betaHCG on 16dpo (or 11dp5dt). When it was inconclusive (due to hcg support shot few days before it), they made me repeat and the number didn't double. I was always on progesterone pessaries so I wouldn't have period until I stopped. So blood test is the only way to find out.
Well, not sure where we are at in term of donor. Some days we are so positive about it all -- thinking what we would like the kid to learn etc. Some days he just has a lot of ridiculous social concerns -- questions that I didn't even think of! I suggested him to see the counselor with me but he refused unless it is a legal requirement. I think deep down he is still feeling ashame of it all and doesn't want anyone to know.