Welcome missjude, i was planning to write the post to you yesterday but got distracted. Actually, got a bit scare after hearing your story. DH is doing the mtese in Dec and we haven't heard any successful story here on bubhub for as long as i remember.
There is a donor sperm thread on bubhub. Several ladies here are on there. You should join there as well. This thread has become a bit quiet.
You are far ahead of us in term of progress. We also found out about the the azoo early this year. Devastated. I need to see a counselor but havent. DH does not want to consider donor. He tried to convince me that we should just accept not having a child for the rest of our life. Even forget about the ivf, mtese etc. Now i am eligible to see a qualified counselor, i will do it for my sanity.
I am going back and forward about the idea of a donor. I can relate how you felt yesterday. Sometime i feel ok and sometime i am not. I can say that to hubby because if i am in doubt, i will even make it harder to convince him. I think we should go in prepared and ready to sign onto the waitlist in the worst case scenario.
You are brave and have gone this far. You are just another step to actually have a chance being a mother.