The fears & different emotions when pregnant after M/C- come chat #10

**Una** · 21-02-2012 10:12

ABWW - Hello!!! So over the moon that you are in here and that you are so far along - I literally have tingles for you!

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SD78 - How are you going? Hopefulandwaiting hit the nail on the head, you just need to have faith in bub. I also didn't relax and bond with Miss Z until after she was born. Be kind on yourself and I know it's so easy to say 'don't worry' but in reality it is going to happen. Allow yourself to feel those emotions, there is no right/wrong way to feel about it all.

AFM - I'm a little bit more settled today, I thought this time around I'd feel different, but finding myself not wanting to connect too much just in case. I know that nature will take its own course and no amount of worrying/not worrying will change a single thing. I just need to keep hoping for a boring uneventful pregnancy.

**shadowangel0205** · 21-02-2012 19:32

OMG Una!! Congrats!!! How exciting

Hang in there! You know how it all happens, and have got little miss Z already so u know your body can do it

Hi to all our mummies with bumps, i hoope they're growing nicely!

AFM - 3 weeks till my little mans 1st birthday! Ive just sent out invites, and have most of the stuff brought for his party... Im excited but sad at the same time. In the past week its like he has turned into a real toddler almsot overnight! Talking more, playing actual games, being sooo cheeky.

Secretly i desperately wanna TTC #2 but its not really a good idea just yet. Ive just started loosing some weight and am looking at 30kgs which will see me at 24kgs less than pre-bub. Hoping to have it all off my christmas and ill probably stop taking the pill Oct/Nov if thats within reach.

**merri berri** · 22-02-2012 20:35

well girls it's very early days, my period's not even due yet and i got a BFP..................... i am so elated, worried and unsure all rolled into one. i just want this one to be a sticky. i'm hoping it will help that i'm only telling cyber world and no one else except main people like hubby, mum etc. but it's so early anything can happen. i allowed my body to have one period on the 30th jan, and then we tried this cycle, and am so excited it happened for us. last time we tried for 5 months and then lost, then 7 months and then lost. so for this to happen at only first try, i am very excited. but not counting my chickens yet!!!!!!!!

have my specialist appoint anyway on mon (i think my doc wont be too happy i allowed my body on it's 2nd cycle to get preggers, as she wanted me to have 2 periods first). but last time i m/c, i was told to wait 1 month, so i am going back to that advice. they were both early losses at 6 weeks, so it's not like my uterus grew nor did preg symptoms set in either.

hope i get to stick around here for a while and not end up on the m/c threads. even tho i'm so glad they exist, i hate having to go backwards

fingers crossed to a happy ending of having a child again. i love my DD soooooooooooooo much

**Una** · 23-02-2012 08:26

Hi all,

ShadowAngel - Congrats your little boy is beautiful, they certainly do grow up first Miss Z is running around and talking now. I have to keep stopping myself from calling her a baby!

Merriberri - congrats! I have everything crossed this one is sticky for you.

. If it helps, I only had one cycle before getting UTD after my loss at 18 weeks and went on to have a very health pregnancy. My OB wasn't over the moon but everything turned out well.

AFM - Had a shocking day yesterday, so hormonal, tired and teary. On top of that I've got the most painful period like pains. If I didn't know I was UTD I'd have sworn I'd be about to welcome my AF! I remember the cramping from Miss Z but have forgotten it was so painfull. Fingers crossed it gets better!

**merri berri** · 23-02-2012 20:46

Originally Posted by Una

Merriberri - congrats! I have everything crossed this one is sticky for you.

. If it helps, I only had one cycle before getting UTD after my loss at 18 weeks and went on to have a very health pregnancy. My OB wasn't over the moon but everything turned out well.

thanks alot for your kind words. hey i also have a miss Z

**SD78** · 01-03-2012 10:59

Una,
Thanks for asking, still not having a fun time! Shouted at the obs a few days ago, feel like they dont take your concerns seriously, you get lumped in with just being paranoid with no cause! Trying to relax, but its hard. There are about 6 women at work pregnant, and they all have proper `bumps` whereas I dont, belly hasnt popped, still just look like a double gut! I keep getting told I dont look like im 26 weeks, which ups the paranoia and she is a lazy kid who wont move much! Sorry for ranting but gah! platitudes dont help, because in the back of your head if it can happen once, why not again- and even more stupid I look at percentages and wonder can so many people in one workplace have a succesful pregnancy, or is it going to fail again for me, which is really stupid, but always there in the back of your head! How do you stop yourself going crazy- or is it better to embrace the crazy, accept it and suck it up?

**shadowangel0205** · 01-03-2012 13:15

SD - try not to stress about not having popped yet. I didnt realy show untill about 32 weeks...then popped all of a sudden! I had my bub on the 15th of March last year, and seen people mid jan....Then when i was walking around pushing him in the pram, they were asking whos baby it was!
I never tried to hide it, actually i tried pushing my belly out so people WOULD notice haha... But he's healthy and happy and was born at 4.080kgs or 9lbs - so DEFINATELY not a small bub either. Maybe i was, and u are now, carying more towards the back then the front??

**merri berri** · 01-03-2012 18:36

Originally Posted by Una

Merriberri - congrats! I have everything crossed this one is sticky for you.

. If it helps, I only had one cycle before getting UTD after my loss at 18 weeks and went on to have a very health pregnancy. My OB wasn't over the moon but everything turned out well.

My recurring m/c specialist wasnt all that pleased either that i only waited 1 cycle to conceive. she said 'so much for waiting 2-3 months!!!!!!'. but i figure there is not much that needs to mend after a 6 week m/c. you give me hope that you were able to have a good preg after an 18 week m/c and only 1 month in between too. maybe this time around being fertile after a m/c is true. it wasnt so true last time when it took 7 months to get a BFP though!

**nmac100** · 08-03-2012 22:35

So we are pregnant again and almost to the 8 week mark and I have had a terribly stressful day at work and I have had a small amount of spotting..
I am sooo very scared that i am having a miscarriage again.
I have been holding off having my dating scan to try not and get my hopes up too high.
So I am having tomorrow off work and heading to my GP....
I wasn't planning this pregnancy and was not overly happy about being pregnant.... was trying to lose weight 1st. And I was just starting to get excited about this baby...

So just hoping, hoping, hoping

**nmac100** · 10-03-2012 08:56

Blood tests high 24000 consistent with under 10wks, but u/s shows 5wk 6day sac - no visible embryo, when should be 8wks.... BUT it is all intact - and looks normal for that stage... no hemorrhage... so in limbo until more bloods and u/s next week.
I have been going over and over the dates and the ?size of sac on u/s and it just doesn't add up with when i started getting symptoms and had positive test.
I had symptoms for 2 weeks before i took positive test on 16/2 and if the u/s is right i has symptoms before i actually conceived - and i don't think that is possible.
Trying to maintain some hope, whilst preparing myself for loss... emotions all over the place and cried myself to sleep... Poor DH