Going to lose the plot

**SadlyReady** · 28-09-2010 22:12

I am a regular member, but posting anonymously. I am not handling things well au the moment. In fact I'm at breaking point.
My 10 week old is getting worse every day. She doesn't cry, only when over tired, but getting her to sleep is getting impossible.
I have been spending the past 3 hours trying to get her to sleep in the only way possible. Rocking and swaying. I am painfully exhausted.
Nothing else works, and thats what every day consists of, constantly swaying. Its mind numbing. Every day it takes longer and longer to get her to sleep.
I've tried wearing her. She HATES it. She screams and squirms and carries on until I take her out.
I can't do anything. Nothing. Apart from swaying.
HOW DO YOU SETTLE A BABY THAT IS LIKE THIS? I can't do this any more. My partner says to put her down for 5 mins, but I can't. She cries and then won't settle, and I feel worse than what I did before taking 5 mins to myself.
I'm hardly eating because it's near on impossible. I hardly drink enough fluids either. I haven't left the house in 2 weeks. I haven't done anything for myself in 10 weeks.
Help, just please- some one help. This is beyond a joke. This is not normal, this is extreme.
I look at her cot and bassinet and I just want to throw them out the window. She doesn't usd them, so why do we need them?
I'm doing what my instincts tell me to do, but things just aren't good. I'm not enjoying this

**Myztiks#1Fan** · 28-09-2010 22:21

would a hammock be of any help for your DD?

**mummy2babyj&j** · 28-09-2010 22:25

Firstly my heart goes out to you have you tried laying her on her belly in her cot and patting her bum thats the only way my dd goes to sleep them when she is asleep roll her over if you dont like her sleeping on her belly

**NibbleCurlynBub** · 28-09-2010 22:25

What kind of carrier are you using...

Babies are really tough, I'm sorry you are having such a hard time.

Would it be possible to reach out to some BubHubbers close to you?

**SadlyReady** · 28-09-2010 22:27

I have tried so many things its not funny. Those electric swings, rocker, bean bags but she won't sleep in them and screams the house down after 5 mins of looking around. One of the slings I have you can put on the cot so it acts as a hammock and she hates it.

**SadlyReady** · 28-09-2010 22:29

I have a ergo, peanutshell, hug a bub, and some other sling thats like the peanut shell but different that doubles as a hammock type thing.

***babygirl*** · 28-09-2010 22:30

firstly hugs. Secondly have you had her checked out for colic, reflux, or intolerances to milk? If you breastfeed do you think it could be something in your diet upsetting her?
Does she relax in the bath? Is she more settled upright? Have you tried taking her to a chiropractor that deals with babies? Birth can be hard on bubbas too and sometimes if something is out it can really throw them off.
Keep looking for answers if you feel it is not right and don't be scared to ask for help!! I'm sending you lot of hugs!

**Jackinabox** · 28-09-2010 22:30

Speak to your MHN to get some ideas. I had similar troubles and was given a settling DVD which worked! It basically said to wrap DS put him in the bassinet and pat him until he goes to sleep. I also used a dummy and a musical star (Tomy - plays a tune while projecting pictures onto the ceiling) which signals bedtime, and I still use. First time took 45 mins and gradually decreased until it took approx 10 mins.

Also let your partner help. He can walk with her while you have a much needed break. Another thing is to try to get her to sleep before she gets overtired. My DS is much harder to get to sleep when he is overtired. Im sure you know her signs by now, but the DVD I mentioned went through them too.

You are doing a great job. Its not easy with a newborn. Use your resources and partner (and family if possible) and make sure you take time for yourself. You need to be ok to look after your DD properly. I know I lived on toast for a long time as that was the quickest thing I could make! (oh, and chocolate too of course

).

Good luck.

**SadlyReady** · 28-09-2010 22:31

Originally Posted by jakobandjaidasmummy

Firstly my heart goes out to you have you tried laying her on her belly in her cot and patting her bum thats the only way my dd goes to sleep them when she is asleep roll her over if you dont like her sleeping on her belly

The very few times she has slept anywhere but on me has been on her tummy, but she wakes 10 mins later without fail. I don't care how she sleeps, as long as she does and preferably that its not on me and is easy to get her to sleep. No such luck.

**MsMummy** · 28-09-2010 22:33

You've probably canvassed this, but what about feeding to sleep? that always put my son is a deep sleep, but when I'm not home it takes my partner arges to carry or rock him to sleep.

I lie down in my bed and feed him and then just get up and leave him there, so there is no waking upon transfer.