Have you ever regretted NOT having an abortion?

**MummaBear03** · 26-09-2010 21:25

Bit of a spin off from the other poll which is still running. There is no option in the poll for people who may have decided against it then regretted that decision. I will add an anonymous poll to be fair

**MummaBear03** · 26-09-2010 21:29

It's multiple choice for people who have had more than 1 pregnancy where the decision to terminate, adopt or keep the baby would come into play.

Sometimes when things get really tough I wonder what made me think I was capable of doing this, but all in all we have a great bond and I don't know how I'd survive without her so am happy with the choice to raise the child rather than adopt her out.

**Pinkzy** · 26-09-2010 21:31

Other.

I regretted having my daughter for about 18 months after she was born. Obviously I feel very differently now

**NibbleCurlynBub** · 26-09-2010 21:34

I have three.

Never for even a split second have I regretted my choice.

**Lemonhead** · 26-09-2010 21:37

My mum has told me that she regrets going through with the pregnancy and keeping my sister. She was older, about 34 (she had me at 22) and had her to a total loser who made her life hell before he left and never spoke to her again.

I think the way mum sees it is that she could have been "free" to do whatever if she had only had me as I was out of home at 17. Instead she has a 11 year old to worry about. Of course she loves her, but I think in a way if she went back in time she might make a different choice.

**ComeBackKid** · 26-09-2010 21:44

Never.

I have terminated and i had issues with DD -bonding etc - but after going through my grief of terminating, i never ever regretted having her.

Yes, my life would have been easier (now) if i didnt procreate with XDP but not for one minute do i regret my gorgeous kids.

My mum was anti-abortion and hated us all (all 5 kids) we ruined her life. Sometimes I have wished I was aborted. It is so hard being hated from birth, for being born.

But from that experience and my abortion experience, i will never regret my children or ever let them feel resented. They didnt ask to be here, i am lucky to have them - the other stuff is my issues which i owe to them and to myself to work on and sort out.

**Ra Ra Superstar** · 26-09-2010 21:45

My ex and i discussed termination with my pregnancy but decided together that we would like to go ahead with it. Despite the relationship breakdown i have never once regretted the decision to continue and i have a beautiful DS to show for it

**~ElectricPink~** · 26-09-2010 21:57

Sometimes I wonder what my life would have been like if I hadn't ended up a young single mother...but no, I definitely have no regrets whatsoever. Yes, I have made a hell of a lot of sacrifices, and it has been difficult- but it has all made me who i am today, and I cannot even begin to imagine a life without my beautiful boy!

**Annabella** · 26-09-2010 22:44

My (now) husband wanted me to terminate our first 2 (unplanned) pregnancies. Keeping them was the best decision I ever made and have never regretted it for a second.

**MumTotzlj** · 28-09-2010 19:28

other

when i got pg with DS2 3mths after DS1 was born. i went through a really rough time, i wasnt coping very well with DS1 and didnt want another baby so soon.DH a couple of times if i wanted one. we almost seperated over the way i was feeling and taking it out on him. after i reached 4 mths an abortion was no longer an option i changed.

At the 18 week scan we found out DS2 had a serious heart problem and the option of termination was there i still said no.

i had DS2, he passed away when he was 12 days old, i dont regret not having an abortion i would have him all over again knowing he was going to die.