Tell me about your 10 year old.

**Just Add Water** · 23-09-2010 21:36

Master 10 is firmly convinced he is extremely hard done by so I would love to give him some stories of what other 10 year olds do - what jobs, what they do after school, what do they eat, what privalidges do they have, what consequences do they have - as much as you can please

**mimsie** · 23-09-2010 23:26

Umm my kids are either side but have the same life/rules etc.

They go to bed at 8pm (8:30 in daylight saving), are expected to get themselves ready (including making and packing lunch) for school, they have chores (paid though) for nearly everything, vacuuming, drying up, washing up, cleaning toilet/bathroom, etc. No pay for cleaning rooms. They also clean up branches before DH does the mowing.

Umm They can eat when they get home, but if they don't eat dinner they don't get anything else until breakfast (but are included in the decision making process of what we have/buy). They eat fruit/veg and have to have some of all provided at dinner even if they don't finish everything.

Umm punishment is usually removal of electronics - tv (not allowed in their rooms but is in their lounge room/play room), computer, DS etc. It's usually fairly effective, particularly with DS who hates not getting on club penguin or having his DS available.

**sweetsugardumplin'** · 23-09-2010 23:41

I'll be keeping an interested `eye' on this post

**sunnyflower** · 23-09-2010 23:55

My ds is nine but anyway.

He goes to bed at 8.30.

His chores are

put the bin in and out once weekly

puts his lunchbox and dirty dishes up on the sink,if he forgets he washes them

puts his dirty clothes in the washing machine

lets the cat out in the morning

puts shoes away

tidies up the lounge of his stuff

His main punishment is that he is sent to his room for misbehaviour.

**The Girls Only Club** · 24-09-2010 00:43

The girls (11 and 9) go to bed at 8:30pm and get up at 7:00am
They get ready for school by 8:15.I only help put their hair up(no tv)
After school they ate allowed to eat until 4:15pm then nothing til dinner.
They must eat their veggies and can have a sandwich or fruit after whether they eat it or not.

They have daily chores:take rubbish out,feed and water the dog,set table.
If they do extra chores :wash up,peel potatoes,bring in or fold washing they receive a sticker.Every sticker is worth one dollar which they recieve when chart is full.

They must clean up after themselves and can't recieve stickers for their own mess but we remove stickers if we have to ask them more than twice
They watch 1 hour of tv each(one loves Hannah one can't stand it so they both get an hour of their shows so 2 hours every day)and half an hour on computer for games and Facebook.Homework on computer is a little more lienent.

If their uniform is not in bathroom by 9pm Sunday it does not get washed.I don't clean their play room if I have too tell them more than 3 times I drag the big bin inside and start throwing things out

Punishment is either been sent to their room which contains nothing but a bed or they are not allowed to have friends over

**bfkel** · 05-10-2010 09:39

My kids must have thought they had it so hard! LOL

Nobody got paid in our house to do housework. I didn't so why should anyone else? It should be done for pride. (LOL oh the amount of times I said that! )
The jobs are split among everyone but if you really think it's unfair then you are welcome to renegotiate with me. (they then realised that mum and dad did a lot more than they thought LOL)

I had always involved the kids in household stuff as they grew up. Even as toddlers they helped hang out washing, sweep and mop etc. It became more written down when DH’s boys came to live with us and I returned to work.

And I was so lucky that DH is domesticated LOL

Every day after school:
Snack first.
Empty school bag –lunchbox to the sink, books on the table.
Prepare clothes for next day. Sport equipment too.
Homework

Children take turns at:
Empty the dishwasher.
Hang out or bring in 1 load of washing. DH or I would fold while watching tv and they each put away their own.
Set and clear the table.
Kitchen bins emptied, this means spraying the bin clean and replacing the bag too. (on garbage night DH supervised all bins through out the house emptied).

Once a week:
Take turns to clean the bathroom. (and I would do it once during the week too)
Clean and vacuum bedroom and put out sheets and towels. Everyone had a different day.

DH and I were included in the turn taking of the next ones:
Sweeping inside.
Sweeping outside.

Every 2nd day:
Vacuuming lounge room.

Everyone cooked an evening meal once a week. They had to work out what needed to be on the shopping list, when they had to start etc. The youngest was 8 when we started this. He made bacon and egg rolls every Monday for nearly 6 months! When the eldest got a part time job he would order pizza because he couldn’t organise his time better. LOL

We had the sport run twice a week (3 different sports) so a lot of chores had to be done before we left.

We had lists on the fridge of menu plans, shopping lists, whose turn it was etc.

At the time I felt like I nagged a LOT, but mostly it worked. I even noticed they used to penalise each other if someone wasn’t pulling their weight. DH would make me stay out of those fights – they treated it as a boy thing and mum wasn’t allowed to save them.

I don’t think we talked enough as a family but they tell me now that the fridge was the centre of their universe. LOL

They all still put out their linen once a week wherever they live, but I know for a fact that they’re all guilty of using a sleeping bag for a few days because they forget to make it the same day.

I don’t remember too much about punishment for not doing chores, it was definitely done no doubt about that, but it couldn’t have been too traumatic. It was probably removal of electronic equipment.

Our issues were smarty mouths that was punishable with a session on the punching bag, and if you really annoyed me I’d follow you around for a set amount of time whinging and guilt tripping and lecturing. Bad parenting I know but gees it made me feel better

**blackdog** · 01-11-2010 20:45

My ten year old is going on 24!

She has dance lessons 3 afternoons a week, which she loves. She is quite talented and interested in the performing arts.

She was off the chart on the NAPLAN test, so she thinks she is super human!

She has gone through early puberty, which is hard, but it also means she thinks she is a lot more grown up than she actually is!

She also looks a lot more grown up...tall and curvy

These are my worries with my 10 year old!

**RaryGirl** · 01-11-2010 21:09

My DD is 12 ...

Bedtime is 8pm on week nights.
She must get herself ready for school of morning, including packing lunch (stuff is pre-made, she just has to choose from what is made and pack it into her lunchbox).

Chores
Food and water for the pets
Clean out kitty litter tray
Pick up dog poo before DH mows
Take out the rubbish when needed
Wipe up the dishes when needed
Help the little ones tidy playroom before bed
Keep her room tidy and make her bed each day
Put away her clean clothes

She has afternoon tea as soon as she gets home and usually eats as she does her homework. If she doesn't eat dinner there is no snacks after dinner. Snacks after dinner is normally fruit or ice-cream if we have some in the house.

Consequences is usually removing of tv/ds/computer privileges.