i am so glad i posted this!
my pregnancy sucked, i had 24/7 morning sickness, i lost so much weight. Then i got gastro for an entire week and had to see my doctor everyday for 5 days! Then i copped every virus known to man, and then finally good old morning sickness returned!! ??? (my husband had his 30th, got absolutely wasted, i was 8.5 months preg, and I WAS THE BLOODY ONE IN THE LOO AT 3AM THROWING UP!)
Then the big day finally arrived, after 9 solid pushing hours, i had to have an emergency c-sect! Didn't research c-sects AT ALL, cos there'd be no way i'd need one right? lol
Felt helpless, clueless, went into shock after the op.
Spent almost 3 hours on my own without my baby (didn't even get a cuddle upon delivery)!
Spent the next 2 months recovering, not driving, and coping with visitors non-stop! All whilst trying to figure out this mum stuff! lol
6 months on and i still cannot feel anything in my lower back or belly, i get sore where the spinal was put in, and i was told i would never have a natural birth.
Now if that wasn't enough to put me off having more, i don't know what is.
I will never say never, but if one more person brings it up, im gonna sit them down and tell them my little story! lol
i know how you feel people ask me all the time, usualy with a stupid grin on there face, So is it time to start trying for another one. Im sick of it
"Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." - Albert Einstein
My cousin is an only child (fertility issues only - aunt and uncle wanted a huge fam but couldnt happen) and she actually gets picked on at school because shes an only child...... I couldnt believe it when she told me..... it was pure jealousy on the other childs part that my cousin didnt have 19 other children to share stuff with but yeah!! So no i dont think only children have any issues being well adjusted i think its more the raising of said child lol.....
I had people over last night and they asked me when the next one was going to be.... ummmm pretty sure this one aint done yet!!!! geeez let me have a chance of ruining this ones life before i pop out another one!!!
All i hear is 'oh ull forget the min u see that baby about ur pregnancy' ummmmmmmm do i get a labotomy at the same time??? because i can tell u at what age and how many times i was sick in my entire childhood from the age of about 4..... but now ill tell u what the best food is the second time around lol
The delimar is DH is very unclear on how many children he wants.... 2 was the max for me now its more like im gunna struggle to get to one LOL (ok maybe not but u know what i mean)
Thank god im not the only one who feels this way tho i swear i was starting to think i was a bad mum lol
pinupsez, i hope you feel better towards the end and get some rest xx
mumof3furbabies, you are definitely not the only one!
Me ~ 34 ~ I'm breaking through, I'm bending spoons, I'm keeping flowers in full bloomDH ~ 36 ~ Blue-eyed boy meets a brown-eyed girl... the sweetest thingDD ~ 4 ~ A brand new day, sunrise over sea
Kstar - feel free to pop into the trauma thread.. trust me, it helps
I'll never understand why everyone expects pregnancy & birth to be the BEST experience ever.. its not roses and fairies for everyone, how could it be? Its the same with motherhood, some mothers would swear blind its the most fullfilling thing they've EVER done, some wouldnt quite feel that way. Life cant be all rosey for all of us all the time unfortunately and people who insist it is just annoy me
1DH+1ME = 1DS
Wow ladies I thought my ms was bad after reading your stories I feel like mine is nothing compared to yours
I haven't even given birth yet so I don't know how I will cope with that or the period after birth. I do feel sad that pregnancy wasn't what I imagined and that the actual pregnancy is deterring me from having another, but then I think about the past 7 months and think wow I can't believe I got through it
The only thing I have enjoyed so far is feeling my bubz kick and move that's it.
Thanks for opening up this topic guys. I feel less guilty and relieved I'm not the only pne
If I have gained any knowledge from this experience, it would be that I should never feel guilty about anything I'm feeling.
ALL my feelings are valid!
It's your body and your right to feel what ever it is you like. You're growing a human being in there, IT'S HARD WORK! lol
Some women do get lucky and get nice easy pregnancies, and cheers to them, but it's obvious that there are a lot who don't too.
And as for those who say 'you'll change your mind once bub comes along', I certainly believe that once DS came along, i looked at things differently, but nothing I went through disappeared because I now had him. It just kind of made it seem worth it.
But I don't need 10 kids to realise it's worth it, one is a lifetime reminder too! lol