DD almost 7 months and I'm not respected as a mum

**BabelFish** · 05-08-2010 22:10

Without commenting on much else, I am almost falling over myself to say that yes, babies CAN choke on bread.

Babies can choke on ANYTHING.

My DD choked on a soft biscuit when she was the same age as the OP's bub, and I was right there in front of her, watching her. That is the only reason she is still alive.

And when *I* was about the same age, too, I choked. On a piece of bread. My mother has had a choking phobia ever since.

Nobody should ever EVER be complacent about choking risks. And I'm not talking a little gagging and couging. When it's the real thing, it's quick, it's silent, and it's lethal.

Aaaaand back to your regular programming...

**Boobycino** · 05-08-2010 22:38

I had a heart stopping choking moment with Jasper and bread - he was 14 months old. It was softer bread though and I think he'd wadded it in his mouth. Anyhoo he was closer to two other mums and they patted him on the back but he wasn't even 'choking' he was just staring at me wide eyed mouth open going red. I picked him up turned him angled downwards and belted him on the back and he coughed, vomited and cried.

Choking is scary - and choking as in choking that is dangerous is completely silent (at least this was) so side note don't leave toddlers alone with food. Im as cautious with food as I would be with bath tubs.

**BabelFish** · 05-08-2010 22:45

Me too. And I admit I've been guilty going off into the kitchen or whatever to get something and then making a cuppa or whatever and leaving DD to eat.

But then I remembered the biscuit incident and stopped doing it. It really is totally silent and only takes a few seconds and they're gone.

**Boobycino** · 05-08-2010 23:04

This maybe needs to be a conversation taken elsewhere

but Even today Jasper was eating a sandwhich facing the Telly on the floor and he was in a 'yo gabba gabba induced trance'

but he was sitting completely still I even went over to have a look make sure he was fine because I am concerned about bread. It's not like I wouldn't ever let him eat bread, but it's on the top of my list of food I worry about.

Basically anything that can be wadded up into like a thick sticky hard glob that's the worst in my humble opinion. (bickies, cake etc)

And hot dogs!!! Had a less severe incident with hot dog.

**SpecialPatrolGroup** · 05-08-2010 23:20

I agree with the other posts about either talking to your family, or giving yourself some space from them. Remember that bubs are pretty resilient and a bit of noisy kissing is not such a big deal - wait till she discovers the saucepans and wooden spoons - then we'll talk noise.
On the choking issue, if my dd has anything to eat in the pram (only when I'm in a mad rush to get somewhere) I turn the handle so I can see her. Earlier this evening she choked on something and the panic on her little face was sooo scary!

**Sugarplum2809** · 06-08-2010 10:11

I am just sick of the WHOLE family doing things to get a reation out of me. Mum was saying that she gave DD bread to play a joke on me. As far as I am concerned the welfare of my DD shouldnt be made a joke out of. It is a sensitive matter.

I am just so sick and tired of wasting my time and energy trying to get through to them. They never understood, supported or respected me or my husband as parents from the day she was born. They all have gotten offended with everything. We have told others that have babies and they are shocked at their behaviour and said that we are very patient.

**LilMissnBoo** · 06-08-2010 10:24

Originally Posted by mia2809

I am just sick of the WHOLE family doing things to get a reation out of me. Mum was saying that she gave DD bread to play a joke on me. As far as I am concerned the welfare of my DD shouldnt be made a joke out of. It is a sensitive matter.

I am just so sick and tired of wasting my time and energy trying to get through to them. They never understood, supported or respected me or my husband as parents from the day she was born. They all have gotten offended with everything. We have told others that have babies and they are shocked at their behaviour and said that we are very patient.

Then do SOMETHING about it!

Stop seeing them for awhile.

Everyone is always so supportive of your posts and give great advice. Don't you think it's time to put into action.

I'm sorry if I sound harsh, working on 5 hours sleep here

**elleandsam** · 06-08-2010 10:28

Originally Posted by mia2809

I am just sick of the WHOLE family doing things to get a reation out of me. Mum was saying that she gave DD bread to play a joke on me. As far as I am concerned the welfare of my DD shouldnt be made a joke out of. It is a sensitive matter.

I am just so sick and tired of wasting my time and energy trying to get through to them. They never understood, supported or respected me or my husband as parents from the day she was born. They all have gotten offended with everything. We have told others that have babies and they are shocked at their behaviour and said that we are very patient.

Then don't see them anymore. There's no law that says you must hang out with your family x amount of time per day/week/month. If they don't respect you then don't be around them, simple.

**ManekiNeko** · 06-08-2010 11:49

Wow amen to pretty much everything everyones been saying so far. Yes it does seem like your overacting and well she's your child no problem with that if that's your choice. You don't like it stand up for yourself and do something. Sorry but people in internets land can't solve this problem for you.

**Sugarplum2809** · 06-08-2010 13:40

I do stand up for my self. I tell them off and its as if I am wasting my energy.

I have been offending everyone since the day my daughter was born. They think I am the one that is sensitive.

DD falls asleep in the car, I get comments like "what arent we going to see her" she was only cat napping at that stage and it is as if I put her to sleep on purpose.

DD puts her fingers in her mouth, my mother pulls them out, whackes her on the hand and calls her NAUGHTY. Hello she was only 6 months old. I yelled back and she said "oh it was just a pat".

I was late to a memorial because my DD was 3 months and slept an hour more. I was yelled at and told that I should have woken her up because people could not be bothered to visit me and give me presents for my DD and they just left them there. No one in my family was understanding at all. My sister who is pregnant said that I should have had her in a routine. In which she was. She would go back to sleep for a while after her first feed. Babies need their sleep to grow.

I get called too over sensitive, protective and too attached to my DD because I didn't like it when my aunty was smothering my DD face, smacking her on the arm (it was red) and pinching her nose. It was the first incident and I was in shock and was paralyzed couldnt say anything. My mum and grandmother said nothing. When I spoke to them about it they thought I was silly. No one likes to see things done like that to their baby. She was only 3 months.

I had to teach them all to be gentle and still most of them are rough with her and treat her as a toy not a human being, that needs to sleep when tired or eat when hungry. Everytime I stood up and said something they thought I was been silly.

Thank you everyone.

Does anyone else have any problems like this with their family?