A not so good outcome *sigh*

**ladyinwaiting2010** · 28-07-2010 14:53

Originally Posted by 1+1=5

you don't sound like a wuss at all and you know what a VB is like, you have been there before. honestly, i don't think you will have issues with being allowed a c/s, i think all your OB wants to know is that you know what you are getting yourself in for, maybe he wanted you to have a think about it for a few weeks before he booked a date for you? when is your next appt?

ha thanks!

i have another appoinment with him next tuesday and ill be talking to the counsellor then too. then when i get to 20 weeks thats when he wants me to talk to the surgeon

**1+1=5** · 28-07-2010 14:59

Originally Posted by ladyinwaiting2010

ha thanks!

i have another appoinment with him next tuesday and ill be talking to the counsellor then too. then when i get to 20 weeks thats when he wants me to talk to the surgeon

it all sounds good, don't stress hun I have no doubt that you will get the birth you are after. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy

**ladyinwaiting2010** · 28-07-2010 15:01

Thanks darl

**delirium** · 28-07-2010 15:04

Originally Posted by missie_mack

He has some valid points about the reasons you originally raised and seeing someone about your previous births and what can be done differently to improve your outcome is a good way of moving forward. Whilst it may seem easier to avoid the situation, dealing with the problem is more important in the longterm

I do agree with missie. Having said that I never ever discount the role of birth trauma, and I understand your anxieties.

**Theophania** · 28-07-2010 15:16

Originally Posted by ladyinwaiting2010

I hope i didnt come across as dissing my ob, cos i have the upmost respect for him and understand that he is looking out for me and the baby.

yes im pretty sure ill get the c-section that i want.

I was not directing my post at you

I understand you like your ob and he does sound fantastic.... Sorry I didn't mean to make you think it was you lol... my bad

**ladyinwaiting2010** · 28-07-2010 15:26

OH ok haha. no worries

**fludo** · 29-07-2010 20:39

You've had 3 vaginal births so far.....so you could look at that in one of two ways....either "I've done it 3 times before so I know I can do it again".....or "I've done it 3 times before, I know what vaginal birth is like for me, and I DON'T want to go there again!"

And yes, it sounds like no 2 for you! I would would still recommend the counselling though because these issues can stick around, even after our birthing days. And you never know, you may find out after working through stuff that you feel you would like to give vb a go again, or maybe it will cement your feelings to go cs while making you feel at peace with your past.

**MissSookyLaLa** · 29-07-2010 20:52

I think it's good that you have thought carefully about what you want.

But having a CS isn't going to fix the trauma you feel about your previous births.

I would seek counselling to heal that trauma, otherwise you may be at risk of PND this time around, no matter how you give birth.

best of luck x

**Theophania** · 29-07-2010 20:54

Originally Posted by MissSookyLaLa

I think it's good that you have thought carefully about what you want.

But having a CS isn't going to fix the trauma you feel about your previous births.

I would seek counselling to heal that trauma, otherwise you may be at risk of PND this time around, no matter how you give birth.

best of luck x

I would definitely agree with this as well. I had PND after DS's birth and I thought things would be different this time as I had a wonderful natural birth, but I still had PND and I think had I worked through more of what happened last time it might have helped

**ladyinwaiting2010** · 29-07-2010 21:29

Originally Posted by MissSookyLaLa

I think it's good that you have thought carefully about what you want.

But having a CS isn't going to fix the trauma you feel about your previous births.

I would seek counselling to heal that trauma, otherwise you may be at risk of PND this time around, no matter how you give birth.

best of luck x

Oh i know! to be honest getting a cs freaks me out too. but its either that or a vb and the baby has to come out one way or the other. im interested in seeing what the counsellor has to say.