My DD's Friend Died At School Yesterday

**FOURtunate** · 19-08-2006 07:37

My 12 year old DD saw the death of her Peer Group Leader at school yesterday. I cannot believe that she was a healthy 17 year old, walking with her friends, and laughing. Then just collapsed and died. We don't know what caused it yet, but it sounds like an aneurism or something.

Imagine sending your child to school, and getting a phone call hours later to say that they have died. She wasn't even sick enough to take a day off school.

My DD and her friend both witnessed the death, and it will stay with them forever.

Does anyone have any hints on dealing with this? DD is devastated. And terrified that it will happen to her.

**M O P** · 19-08-2006 07:57

that's a terrible story, her poor family, friends and school mates

sorry I don't have any suggestions though

**PMS** · 19-08-2006 08:01

That is awful. Her parents must be devastated. Im so sorry your little girl had to witness something like that.
I dont have any advice to offer having never been through it myself. Is the school going to be offering couselling seeing as it happened at school and in front of their students? If they're not you should probably organise couselling for DD yourself.
Best of luck in helping your DD deal with this. I would give her lots of

and

and let her know she can talk to you any time.

Take care, Peta xox

**jkate** · 19-08-2006 08:04

That is so sad, the poor family. Sending out hugs for you and your daughter

. The only suggestion I can make is talk and talk with your daughter, is the school offering any counselling - usually they do when a student passes away even when doesnt happen at school.

**~EmsMum~** · 19-08-2006 08:42

oh wow how horrible

**Bubble*Crazy** · 19-08-2006 09:14

How distressing for your daughter to witness something like that. Normally schools try and offer counselling when things like this occur.

I don't have any advice, but my cousin passed away in a similar situation when I was around 8 - it was completely devastating. I don't remember much about it now, but it was definately hard to get through.

Sending heaps of

for her and the girls family.

**brooke** · 19-08-2006 09:36

what an awful thing to happen.. every parents worst nightmare...

im thinking of your dd too... big big hugs for her

**FOURtunate** · 19-08-2006 09:48

Thankyou Bubhubbers. The school is offering counselling for all students and staff.

I'd be worried if they didn't.

**caz** · 19-08-2006 09:49

That's awful. Sending lots of

to your daughter and the girls family.

I'm glad the school is offering counselling

**whatwasithinking** · 19-08-2006 09:51

I am so osorry to hear that. My thoughts are with the family and you and your daughter.

May she get the councelling that she so despeartly will need.

Once they find out what happened maybe that might help your daughter with her grief and the issue that she feels it could happen to her.

Hug her tightly and let her know that we are truly sorry.