dont no what to do

**Abi&Beth** · 21-07-2010 18:18

Im currently 33 weeks with twins, one baby is breach the other is transverse, so there is a c-section booked for me at 38 weeks if bubs havent turned.

The problem is, ever since twin a turned and they said c-section i have been nothing but depressed, to the point where im crying my self to sleep at night, i cant stand to look at my stomach anymore, and feel nothing but disgusting that i couldnt do it the way i wanted to.

We have a scan next wednesday then im meeting with the OB on thursday to discuss options,

The problem is and please no one judge me because i really dont need it right now, but i am just so over being pregnant and feeling useless that i want the c-section to be done at 36 weeks or as soon as possible, but only if the girls are still VERY healthy and above weight,

My independant midwife has said they will do it early for social reasons if i tell them i am depressed but i dont want to seem selfish and cause my babies any harm by bringing them into the world sooner...

sorry its a bit jumbled my head is in another place.

What would you do?

**headoverfeet** · 21-07-2010 18:43

It sounds like you need some more support? Have you spoken to your IM about how you really feel?

What has your IM said re: bubs positions and going for a vag birth (if thats what you want)?

**The Fox** · 21-07-2010 18:45

Firstly

it must be hard feeling like that.
If you want my honest opinion I personally would not be considering delievering bubs before 38 weeks or 37 at the veryyyyyy least.n I just couldnt live with myself if my bubs had to spend time in special care or something because of a decision I made

**Abi&Beth** · 21-07-2010 18:55

i have spoken to my IM about it and she said the babies could easily be born at 36 weeks without needing special care as they are both very over developed for their ages they are measuring at 39 weeks and have both developed really well.

i cant have a vag birth if babies dont turn head down as it is hospital policy so the csection will definitly be in order if the presenting twin doesnt go back to being head down.

i wouldnt have considered bringing them out early if there was a problem with them, i want them to stay in but i no my bipolar is going to get worse and ill end up having to be back on medication if things get worse. i really want to be at full health for my girls and give them the world, but at the moment i just dont think ill be able too if things progress....

**Abi&Beth** · 21-07-2010 18:56

thanks for your honesty big bird.

**Ruby Sneakers** · 21-07-2010 19:03

Honestly, if they have told u the bub will be fine and are developed enough and u have valid concerns for your health (mental or physical), i would be getting those babies out and getting urself under control now, before things get worse where that might cause issues with bonding etc...

Best wishes with it all

**TripleTime** · 21-07-2010 19:04

My honest opinion Tiff.

Dont have prems, even if it is only 4 weeks. Girls maybe over size etc but you dont know what their lung & brain development is like, no one can guess that from a U/S. There is nothing saying they will stay out of SCN.

I was like you are now, i hated being preg, hated i couldnt sleep, eat, have a shower & generally do things for myself. I relied on someone 24/7. But i knew the longer they were in the better off they would be.

In saying all this, my 3 were as early as they cause i was in maternal distress. I couldnt take anymore, id had enough. Everyone could see that & the call was made to deliver & not stop labour again.

**ManekiNeko** · 21-07-2010 19:51

I don't really know anything about multiples but just curious do most twins even make it to 38 weeks? I had a friend who was pregnant with twins and I just recall her telling me that the gestation for twins is shorter than a singleton. Sorry if this is an annoying question was just curious.

**TripleTime** · 21-07-2010 19:53

Originally Posted by ManekiNeko

I don't really know anything about multiples but just curious do most twins even make it to 38 weeks? I had a friend who was pregnant with twins and I just recall her telling me that the gestation for twins is shorter than a singleton. Sorry if this is an annoying question was just curious.

Not really, its more like 37 weeks if induced or elective CS, i do know a few mums that have made it to 38-39 weeks.

**amanda779** · 21-07-2010 19:58

i read that twins are classed as full term at 36 weeks which is why it would be ok. i hope they turn and you dont need it. i mean i think triple time is probably one of the better people to talk to about it as she went through it with her babies as she said the feeling and everything. i wouldnt judge you for your decision just make it carefully and try very hard to make sure it is best for all involved.