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    Quote Originally Posted by lambjam View Post
    However, should I have had a baby with a disease, disability or deformity that I would not be prepared to live with myself, I would not bring them into the world to suffer it. As their mother I am their voice and would do my best to make the decision on their behalf.

    My heart goes out to all who are faced with this.
    I think the above is a very good way of looking at things. I hadn't considered that before, and it helps clarify things in my mind. I also hope it's a decision I never have to face.

    As I mentioned earlier in the thread, our main issue would be that DH and I do not totally agree on what we would do. Even posing that question to him (what he would be prepared to live with) showed that we had different views on what we consider a life worth living.

    It's such a heart-wrenching decision to make, and I feel for anyone who's been in that position.

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    I'm not proud to admit this but I wouldn't continue with a pregnancy if the outcome was a child with disability or severe health issues. Its just not in me to give so much of myself. I hope I'm never in a situation where I have to decide or not.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jonnysmama View Post
    I'm not proud to admit this but I wouldn't continue with a pregnancy if the outcome was a child with disability or severe health issues. Its just not in me to give so much of myself. I hope I'm never in a situation where I have to decide or not.

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    I don't think anyone would be proud of admitting it but it's also not something to be ashamed.


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    I chose to interrupt my pregnancy, I never want to be in that position
    again because a piece of you dies with your baby and I don't think I could survive it again.

    To whoever said tests aren't 100% that's not true. Scans aren't but other tests are.

    I was told 100% my daughter was going to die. I had the choice of being induced early so she never suffered or continuing and watch her suffer and then die. Outcome the same, one meant I could protect my child from suffering.

    Most horrible decision of my life, I was told by every specialist we saw (and there were many) that it was the most humane choice.

    They told me that for some reason my body hadn't picked up on the severity of the problems. Most people would miscarry in my situation. I didn't think my child should suffer because my body failed me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jonnysmama View Post
    I'm not proud to admit this but I wouldn't continue with a pregnancy if the outcome was a child with disability or severe health issues. Its just not in me to give so much of myself. I hope I'm never in a situation where I have to decide or not.

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    Totally understand, I was in this situation. When you already have other children, it's only fair to consider how it will impact on them too, and this is part of the reason why we chose to terminate.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Angelmummy82 View Post
    I chose to interrupt my pregnancy, I never want to be in that position
    again because a piece of you dies with your baby and I don't think I could survive it again.

    To whoever said tests aren't 100% that's not true. Scans aren't but other tests are.

    I was told 100% my daughter was going to die. I had the choice of being induced early so she never suffered or continuing and watch her suffer and then die. Outcome the same, one meant I could protect my child from suffering.

    Most horrible decision of my life, I was told by every specialist we saw (and there were many) that it was the most humane choice.

    They told me that for some reason my body hadn't picked up on the severity of the problems. Most people would miscarry in my situation. I didn't think my child should suffer because my body failed me.
    ((hugs))

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    I too made the decision to interrupt my last pregnancy.

    After our 12 week scan we were told that it appeared that our baby may have had a heart problem. Our doctor told us not to worry as the lady doing the scan had noted that it had been technically difficult to get a good view of the baby. We waited until 16 weeks to have another scan. We were told that our baby boy had a congenital diaphragmatic hernia and were advised at that time that it was probably better to terminate. We held tight until we saw the fetal medical specialist up at my state women's hospital 3 weeks later where it was confirmed that our son had a very severe hernia on his left side and that his chances of survival were only 20%. The specialist also suspected a hole in his heart but couldn't confirm at the time (due to gestation) but recommend an amino to rule out chromosome problems and advised that if he did have heart problems that his chances would be roughly 10%.

    My husband and I decided to interrupt our pregnancy for a few reasons the main one being to minimize our sons pain. It did not seem fair to us to bring him into the world if he would only know pain and suffering. Another reason was our daughter who was not quite 2.

    I have since found out that Josh's problems had nothing to do with chromosome problems, and that he did infact have several complicated heart defects (VSD, truncus arteriosus along with a drainage problem affecting the lungs) in addition to the hernia. The chances of our son surviving were minimal.

    Making the decision was the hardest and most heartbreaking decision I have made in my life. It is something that will stay with me forever.

    Hubby and I are expecting again and we won't know if this baby is healthy until 16-20 weeks. We have a 5% chance of reoccurance. I hope and pray everyday that this baby is ok.

    I voted other because you never can be certain of what you would do until you find yourself in the situation. For me it would depend on a number of things. I hope I never need to make that decision again.
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    No, I would terminate.

    I could not find it in myself to cause my child to suffer just so I can satisfy my own need to have a child.
    It's cruel.

    We've all heard of, and most have witnessed, disabled children picked on, bullied, excluded and insulted for being disabled.
    Why would I want to submit my child to that? How COULD I submit my child to that, with a clear conscience, thinking that my mothering desires were more important than the mental welfare of my kid?

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    I hope i never have to make a decision like that and i have alot of sympathy for anyone who does but In short if there was a mental disabiility yes. If it was physical no.

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    I meant i would terminate if mental keep if physical.


 

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