Co-Sleeping...and the partner who is less than happy with it.

[SassyMummy]

I'm not an attachment parent...but there are some aspects of it which I like (baby-wearing and co-sleeping for example).

DD currently sleeps in her cot, and has for quite some time...but that's only because DP didn't like co-sleeping...and so, to make him happy, I moved DD into her cot (and eventually into her own bedroom).

I'm not pregnant, but when I eventually have another baby, I'd like to attempt co-sleeping again.

I'm wondering how others have coped with co-sleeping...when your partner is less than thrilled about the idea of it.

[*~alegna~*]

I'd love some advice there aswell....My DS is 2.5mth & DH doesn't want him in bed with us either. He says that is the only time we get alone, which I can understand but it is so lovely having my bubba in bed with us!

[shed]

I am not sure what my label is yet in regard to Attachment Parenting - must still be coming in the mail!!

But... last night I learned to breastfeed while lying down and at the 2am feed I didn't put bubby back in the bassinette, I just left him in our bed and at the 4am feed I just put the boob in his mouth and he fed and then we both nodded off again.

DP would be all for co-sleeping. On bubby's first night DP slept with bubby on his chest and he said how cool it would be if bubby could just sleep with us. I told him it was called co-sleeping and that I would look it up.

So this is me looking it up, LOL.

I just need to know what the "rules" are. My baby is only two weeks old so I am a bit worried I will smother him or he will overheat or something.

[Niki]

well my parner found it hard with the space issue so wen isaw on here that ppl side car i tried that and it works great for us he loves it now

[Percy]

DH said right from the start that there wasnt going to be any co-sleepimg.

However, i was really sick for the first three months, and couldnt get up to DS for night feeds. He ended up in our bed and is till there.

We are in the process of moving him now, but only because of the space issue.

[bekkyboo]

we have co-slept pretty much since birth. During the pregnancy both me and DH were againist it. But having a chi.ld with severe reflux and that at times was a little difficult sleep unless he was on our chests (and a mother who loved her sleep) - we were more than happy for him to sleep with us.

Dh got over his fear of it when DS slept so well... As for rules here;s what i go by.

I have the covers lower than him - so on me thats below my chest.

Im not really concerned about overheating as the guide is bub to have 1 more layer than you. He has a jumpsuit to sleep in, and then he just goes under our covers....

We go like this - GDS sleeps in his cot from put down to 2am feed, then into bed withus until i get up. DH gets up around 5, so then its just me and ds.

I had a fear of rolling on him, but after my first night with him, i lost that. Its an instinct you have, i dont move an inch with out waking up when heis in bed with us.

[our little treasures]

I fully co sleep with my lil man and did with our dd 16mnths... My hubby loves it but sometimes he says it's time to get his room done. next day he is back to wanting him in our bed.

[pickles]

I have seen in some baby shops this mini basinette that is designed for baby to sleep in between parents at the top of the bed with your pillows on either side. baby is on own mattress and has its own bedding and you are unable to roll on top. I am not sure of the brand but looks like a really good idea for those worried. Would possibly also make it easier if you wanted to transfer the baby out into its own bed because it would already be used to that sleep environment.
Good Luck
Pickles
DD 02/03
DS 03/05

[*Chels*]

Go Shed!!The day I mastered the art of feeding lying down was the best day of my life LOL!
We co-sleep,I like it better than my df does.He complains that we dont get to cuddle in bed etc.
I said to him the we have the rest of our lives to cuddle in bed,and Riley will only be a baby for a short time.It sounds brutal,but I dont really care if DF has a problem with it.Im not going to sacrafice my snuggle time with my baby for anyone.Pretty soon Riley will be too big to have in bed and probably wont even want to sleep with us,so Im going to enjoy it while it lasts!!
Also Im still breastfeeding,and he wakes a few times a night for boobie,so its the easiest way for us to have a good sleep

[alicesmum]

I said to him the we have the rest of our lives to cuddle in bed,and Riley will only be a baby for a short time.It sounds brutal,but I dont really care if DF has a problem with it.Im not going to sacrafice my snuggle time with my baby for anyone.Pretty soon Riley will be too big to have in bed and probably wont even want to sleep with us,so Im going to enjoy it while it lasts!!
Also Im still breastfeeding,and he wakes a few times a night for boobie,so its the easiest way for us to have a good sleep

I am with you. We cosleep. Did it with DD from Day 1 for 2 months (and then sometimes from her 3am sleep onwards) and from Day 1 with DS who is now nearly 10 weeks. I think I will go for longer with DS now that I am not so sensitive to people's stares and comments about rolling on your baby. Codswallop. We have a bed rail and he sleeps on the outside of me. It's fantastic and so practical and lovely too!