My close friend has a new friend I can't stand....

[tack10]

I'm not sure where to post this?! This is my first post and I wanted to ask people if they have ever told a close friend that they dislike their new friend? - it all sounds very high schoolish - even though I am 40.....I have a close friend who has established a relationship with another woman who I cannot stand - I find her very opinionated, self absorbed - I have met her around 5 times - her husband is the same (in my opinion) I finally summoned the courage to tell my friend how I was feeling and she told me what difference does it make how I feel about her friend - she thinks she's wonderful. My problem is - I just can't get over this - it truly is not only a jealousy issue - this woman is unbearable.......I feel like I should just move on from both of them. I won't go into too many details - just wanted to know if anyone could share their experiences? Thanks!

ps - I think I have posted this in the wrong section??!!

[SuperGranny]

hi tack10., I can understand how you are feeling, and I agree with your friend, what difference does it make. I have been through this. We had a group of friends, married couples and one couple split up and the new partner really upset most of the group. She is still not in the least bit liked by anyone, but she is still with the guy who was part of the original group. We cross paths only occasionly, and it is no big deal, we only have to see her once in a blue moon. If you really dont see yourself ever being able to tolerate the woman, then leave the friendship, if you think you might be able to see her in short doses, then keep the friendship. Marie.

[Mischief]

I understand this too.

An old, trusted friend told me a few home truths about another "friend". I have to admit at the time I thought she was being jealous and selfish, but as time went on I noticed things for myself and realised that I should have listened to her long before.

Maybe mentioned to her, and back it up with why you feel this other friend is bad news. She will need to figure it out for herself, but at least then you have been honest.

[Mischief]

Oh sorry, when I read it the first time I didn't realise you had already told your friend.

I guess just back away a little bit and let her see for herself. Or when you do things, do them alone, one on one.