How do you decide whether to find out?

[MrsBeee]

Two reasons I changed my 'definitely not finding out' stance.
Firstly because DH REALLY wanted to find out. He wanted to find out more than I didn't want to, and I knew one of us finding out and not the other just wouldn't work.
Secondly because I was becoming SO SO convinced I was having a boy. I worried that if I went through the whole pregnancy talking to and bonding with my little boy, and it turned out to be a girl, I would be disappointed.

Now, I'm really glad I did find out, because as I'd feared, she WAS a she!! I was so incredibly surprised when the sonographer told us, I didn't believe him at first. I was a little disappointed to be honest, but probably more so because I knew DH really wanted a boy first. But as the pregnancy progressed I got really excited about having a girl, and now the both of us couldn't imagine (or want) it any other way
We did decide to tell everyone that we hadn't found out though. It was our own little secret (though we were very close to letting slip a couple of times).

Good luck with your decision!!

[Blairysmum]

We found out! I wanted it to be really special so I asked our ultrasound lady to write it on a piece of paper a put it in an envalope, we then waited 3 days until the weekend when we went on a picnic to this really nice park! And opened the envolope together! It's kinda corny Rbut I think it's a really special thing and I just wanted it to be the two of us!! Very shelfish of me!!!

[MissWinter]

We found out, because she's a surprise, and DP wasn't happy with the pregnancy, but really wanted a boy... We chose to find out so that if she was a she (which she is!) he'd have time to adjust...

Which he has

[MissSookyLaLa]

i found out first time half because I am impatient, and half because I wanted a girl and needed time to adjust and get to love my little boy!

This time I am finding out for the same reasons!

[JellybeanInc]

I was adamant we were finding out because DH was sure beyond sure we were having a boy - so much so that he refused to even discuss girl names! I figured that he'd need the time from the scan to the birth to adjust to having a little girl if that was indeed what we were having. DH even threatened that if baby was born a girl he would be putting her back in to finish 'cooking' the necessary bits.

We went for the scan, and lucky for DH, it's a boy. He is so chuffed with himself. All I heard for the rest of the scan day was "See? I told you so, but no one believed me!"

Aside from that, my other reason is pretty flimsy - I don't like neutral colours. Knowing if bubs is a boy or a girl means I can pick coloured clothes and decorate the nursery to suit.

[Shellfish]

I am a pretty firm believer that if either partner doesn't want to know the sex then it's fairer not to find out. Information can't be unlearned and this is one of few real surprises there are in life.

We aren't finding out this time. I can say hand on heart that I don't have a preference (I have a little boy and that's what I wanted) so am happy to wait for delivery date.