Did you TTC without your partner's knowledge (or would you)?

**Areca** · 12-08-2006 09:24

No never. My cousin's ex did this...they'd only been together 3 months!!! Needless to say he was absolutely furious when he found out. They split up for a while, then got back together, but have no split up for good. My cousin loves his son but it is the kid that suffers. Because my cousin's ex didn't get to play happy families like she thought she was going to she doesn't play with her son, doesn't feed him (she has things in the cupboard that he can get himself...he's 2!) and when asked how much he loves his mum he folds his arms across his chest and put his head down. It's so so sad and I don't understand why anyone would do that. Having a baby changes your whole life, forever!

**FourAngelKisses** · 12-08-2006 09:27

Oh that is so sad, that poor little boy.

Has your cousin tried to get custody of him?

**Areca** · 12-08-2006 09:50

Jeanette not yet but they only split up a few months ago and he is trying to do things the civil way at the moment but I know he is getting really upset and fed up with the mother (and his son never wants to leave him and go back to his mum's) so I think that one day he is really going to snap and will go for full custody.
It is really sad. If she wanted a baby so much you think she'd care for him. He either gets put out in the backyard on his own, or he is front of the tv.

He is a slow talker, but it was after his 2nd birthday that he said mum. Shows just how much attention she pays to him when he has no reason to ask for her.

**bronny-jane** · 12-08-2006 10:29

i dont have to lie, dh and i have the attitude, if it happens it happens

although im seriously thinking i dont want it to ever happen again

ask me in 6 months though, i'll be wanting more

**Dannii79** · 12-08-2006 10:47

This happened to my BIL. The B**ch he was with did the "oh I can't fall pregnant" line and he was stupid enough to fall for it. She dumped him when she made the 12 week mark. She is now causing all sorts of problems for him and he can only have supervised visits 2 hours a week!! His daughter was born with a cleft pallet and lip so she is tube fed etc so it is hard for him to get her over weekends etc. His ex has even told mutual friends of theirs that she only used him to get pregnant.

**~Danni~** · 12-08-2006 10:52

I couldn't do it.....

DF and I talk about everything anyway plus we both had the same ideas and plans regarding having babies so we are on the same page anyway

was there a DR Phil episode where husbands were having sex with their sleeping wives to get them pregnant?? I think I remember seeing it, how awful

**Milliner** · 12-08-2006 11:15

No but DS was not planned

**BubbaLicious** · 12-08-2006 11:27

Nope never ever! & never ever will!

DS#1 wasn't planned but he knew that I'd just come off the pill and risks we were taking when not using condoms

He really wanted me to have his babies sooner rather than later, as he confessed when we found out.....no wonder he didn't seem at all concerned! (of course we had already discussed that we were both the one for each other and wanted children together, just hadn't figured out the timing. So the timing figured us out

with the help of DH)

**~EmsMum~** · 12-08-2006 11:28

no way! never have never will

**Angelmist♥** · 12-08-2006 11:34

Originally Posted by babybungee

was there a DR Phil episode where husbands were having sex with their sleeping wives to get them pregnant?? I think I remember seeing it, how awful

How does that happen??

Nope couldn't and wouldn't.I had a 'friend' whose husband used to check her pill every night to make sure she was taking them but she was throwing them down the sink.