Did you TTC without your partner's knowledge (or would you)?

**SassyMummy** · 12-08-2006 00:26

I was just reading another thread and it got me thinking...

How many people have gone off the pill (or something similar) without their partner knowing in order to fall pregnant?

I won't judge you...and I don't want anyone else to either...I'll even put up a poll so you can't be identified by members...

I'm just curious about how often this happens.

If you haven't done it...would you consider doing it?

**Melo** · 12-08-2006 00:33

I've never done it and never will!

**SamanthaJane** · 12-08-2006 00:37

No i didnt and i wouldnt.

But i once read a story in that's life magazine about how a lady did... her husband always promised they would have kids, then one day decided "nope dont want them" so she got pregnant (on purpose) after years of trying to convince him. Her partner was mad at first (because he didnt think he wanted kids) and didn't understand why the pill hadn't protected them... but then he was really happy and they went on to have a few more kids (his idea, not hers)... when she wrote the article he still didn't know that she'd gone behind his back to do it.

Yes the above story is deceitful... but they still had a happy ending... and he did break his promise... It's not like she tricked him into it for marriage or something. So i dont think, that situation, is that bad...

**Tan-mumof3** · 12-08-2006 00:54

I read that article too Samantha Jane.
I have never lied to my DH about anything especially not contraception and i never would, it is a major breach of trust and a relantionship with out trust is sure to run into trouble imo. He is going to be the father and has as much right to decide when that is going to happen.

**Karizma** · 12-08-2006 00:59

Personally I wouldnt be able to do this... If children are bought into the world I reckon both parent should want them in it

**Little Gorilla** · 12-08-2006 01:22

If you can't tell your partner that you want to get pregnant with them, why the hell would you think you could bring that child up together in a healthy loving stable environment.
I think its a very low act.

**Kayteigh** · 12-08-2006 08:03

I would never do that to my partner, given my 1st two babies were accidents Travis was completely planned by Rob and I, on the other hand Rob's ex wife did TTC a baby with out his knowlegde and Tayla is now 9.

Katie

**FourAngelKisses** · 12-08-2006 08:18

I would never ever do it. I love my husband too much to betray him. Our last two babies have both been accidents (okay, the last one...we weren't trying, but we had one night where we weren't not trying either) and he has been really happy about both of them, but a baby should be something that both people in the relationship want. You shouldn't need to use lies and deceit to get what you want.

**Mummamoo** · 12-08-2006 08:34

Nope. Wouldn't and couldn't do it.

Babies/children add an incredible amount of stress to a relationship and it's has to be a decision made by both. And I think that any woman who 'tricks' her partner needs to go into the deception knowing that she will most likely end up raising that child/children on her own, especially if she is found out (and lies have short legs !).

**Mischief** · 12-08-2006 09:02

Nope, I would never deliberately get pregnant without my partners consent.

I firmly belive that a baby has every right to be loved and WANTED by both its parents....(if possible)

I understand sometimes accidents happen, and I have every respect for women who continue on with accidental pregnancies!!!!!