m2b i swear our husbands are twins. only difference being mine is in the shed till 9pm most nights.. no help no nothing.
he'll come in to eat(usually in the lounge) then head back out.
i will call him in to say goodnight to the kids then he's straight outside again till he's done whatever hes doing!
reading what you wrote though i think mine is worse than yours.. he does nothing here. no cooking, no bins, no tidying, no help with the kids.. no nothing. he goes to work and thats the extent of his "duties".
i've given up trying.. never expected him to help around the house, but would like him more involved with the kids. but im over it now. i guess we live together but seperately. its me and the kids then him iykwim. i dont plan things with him. we do our thing and he does his.