Poll: Does your partner help around the house?

+ Reply to Thread
Page 13 of 36 FirstFirst ... 3111213141523 ... LastLast
Results 121 to 130 of 356
  1. #121
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    Location
    Perth
    Posts
    1,387
    Thanks
    1,324
    Thanked
    185
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    m2b i swear our husbands are twins. only difference being mine is in the shed till 9pm most nights.. no help no nothing.
    he'll come in to eat(usually in the lounge) then head back out.

    i will call him in to say goodnight to the kids then he's straight outside again till he's done whatever hes doing!

    reading what you wrote though i think mine is worse than yours.. he does nothing here. no cooking, no bins, no tidying, no help with the kids.. no nothing. he goes to work and thats the extent of his "duties".

    i've given up trying.. never expected him to help around the house, but would like him more involved with the kids. but im over it now. i guess we live together but seperately. its me and the kids then him iykwim. i dont plan things with him. we do our thing and he does his.

  2. #122
    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Posts
    21,787
    Thanks
    566
    Thanked
    301
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    Yeah yours sounds worse than mine, at least he takes the rubbish out and cooks (even though I have to clean up aftewards) Men just have no idea do they (SOME men I should say). I hope my son doesn't grow up like that and I hope my daughters don't marry someone like that either.

    You must feel like a single mother with a room mate in your house. I am sorry your partner is so absent from you.

    ETA: My own father used to come home and spend all night in the garage too, it sucked. Though it was either that or come in and argue with my step mother all night (all they did was argue) he'd even spend every Friday night at the pub after work. At least mine doesn't do that, he is home, we are in the same room but hardly speak to one another most of the time.

    We really know how to pick 'em don't we? lmao.
    Last edited by mum2bubba; 31-07-2010 at 22:30.

  3. #123
    Join Date
    Feb 2010
    Posts
    194
    Thanks
    4
    Thanked
    8
    Reviews
    4
    m2b and mummaof4, my xh was alittle like that but he liked to cook and if he did clean the kitchen I was not allowed back in, he would tell me to put the baby in the back pack to clean the house if I had a hard day with wingeing and I felt very much like a single mum emotionally. my dp now is trying to be good and he is learning he just cant cook and isnt very good at washing (towels in with the clothes) I dont ask to do it ever. I get really annoyed sometimes but find that its my issue and need to 'pull my head in' as my mum says, because it just puts distance betwen us and makes a mountain out if a mole hill and hes really good at playning with his little girls and always engaging with them in play or music.

  4. #124
    Join Date
    Apr 2010
    Posts
    18
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked
    0
    Reviews
    0
    I voted 'competantly and willingly'

    Wish i could tick 2 boxes because it is more like......Compentantly and willingly & With plenty of reminding
    But i guess that's better than no help at all!

  5. #125
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    149
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked
    0
    Reviews
    0
    DF gets life pretty easy.
    He has two jobs - wash the dishes after dinner and take the bins out.

    I don't mind doing all the other housework. I kind of enjoy cleaning anyway.
    If I'm sick or have an assignment due DF will cook dinner ( or buy takeaway ) and take over some of the housework.

    The one thing I always say though is he doesn't have to clean but he does have to parent.
    He usually baths DS 2 or 3 times a week and will usually feed DS dinner twice a week too.

  6. #126
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Posts
    144
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked
    1
    Reviews
    0
    I put 'other' because he does sometimes do things, but it's his idea to do them. I'm a SAHM and he is out long hours and under a fair bit of stress, so generally I am happy to do all the domestic stuff, but he will occasionally cook or wash up on a weekend.

    I agree with the idea that if you are both working outside the home it shouldn't be called 'helping'.

    I do think that despite all of what feminism has provided us, some things haven't changed for most people, though. For example, when baby is born, it's rarely the dad's that are asked 'So, when are you going back to work? Have you organised daycare?'. It's rarely dad who deals with the kids being sick, who knows when there's a special event at school etc. That's my experience, anyway.

    My husband is a wonderful dad and definitely not a neanderthal, which is why I was so shocked last year- I took on a full time job and he took a year out from study and was working less than 10 hours a week. The kids were in daycare from 9-4 5 days a week and I still had to think of dinner, shop, do most of the cleaning ironing and washing grrrrr!

    When I complained to family, all the women said, 'So what? I always did all that and worked full time too!'. More fool them, I say. Must be still a man's world I reckon.

  7. #127
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    Location
    Brisbane
    Posts
    495
    Thanks
    6
    Thanked
    5
    Reviews
    0
    my hubby is great around the house and with the twins, every morning he makes me a a cup off tea before i get out off bed and will give the twins there breakfast. Hes great at cooking and cleaning (his fav is dusting and ironing). I couldnt ask for a better husband, lover, partner, father. 9years and still going strong x

  8. #128
    Baldie's Mum is offline <--- Tommy Campbell, T.C, Baldie.....whatever you call him, he is ours!
    Join Date
    Feb 2007
    Location
    in the clouds living my dream!
    Posts
    10,491
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked
    27
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    All my friends joke that i married my hubby cause of his house keeping skills! He is the neatest, cleanest, most organised man in the history of men!

  9. #129
    Join Date
    Apr 2010
    Posts
    140
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked
    1
    Reviews
    0
    I demand he helps me, I work full time too, thesame hours as he does, contribute 50% money wise towards housing, bills, so yeah, its his obligation! He needs to be reminded that he is not the only one exhausted/tired at the end of the day! So yeah, I nag quite a bit but as long as I get the help I don't care! LOL

  10. #130
    Join Date
    Jun 2006
    Posts
    21,787
    Thanks
    566
    Thanked
    301
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 postsDiamond Star - 20,000 posts
    If I nag and nag mine tunes off to it and doesn't help.


 

Similar Threads

  1. What exactly does your husband/partner do around the house??
    By jennibear in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 70
    Last Post: 17-06-2012, 00:39
  2. Does your DP/Hubby?
    By Brandnewbeginnings in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 40
    Last Post: 16-06-2012, 12:56

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Tambo Teddies
Visit our online store and select your individually handmade natural sheepskin teddy bear. Our soft and loveable bears come in a range of styles and colours. Created in Outback Queensland each bear is unique individual. 100% Australian made!
sales & new stuffsee all
CarmelsBeautySecrets
Growing your own natural nails is easy. Years ago, I devised a simple and very effective technique which really helps boosts the nails' growth in as little as three days! And most importantly keeps them that way.
featured supporter
The Fix Program Sydney CBD and Broadway
Pregnancy and women's health physio, pregnancy and new mum Pilates classes taught by our physios for you and bub. Pregnancy back and pelvic pain. Also, we treat postnatal and women of all ages. Incontinence, prolapse, sexual and pelvic pain.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!