Hi bunny rabbit. I'm not sure what the rules are for defacto relationships are. I will say that I am married and this process has taken us almost 1 1/2 years now and we're still not registered. It has been difficult for us to provide all the evidence for medical stuff, chase up doctors and specialists, obtain and provide all the documentation, complete endless amount of forms - repeating stuff we've already sent in etc etc.
I am saying this so that you are aware that this process is not an easy one. Not for anyone or any situation. It doesn't get any easier either.
It is time consuming, emotionally consuming, frustrating with the waiting, and waiting and waiting.
So if you've just been to the info session and are ready to give up now, maybe that is the right choice for you at this point in time. Because there is nothing quick or easy about this process. I'm not sure how old you are or what your situation is, but maybe you have time to try other options. My husband and I have tried all other options with traumatic consequences. This is our only option now and so we're willing to put in the hard yards to get to the end.
Maybe in a few years this might be your only option too.
Either way, I wish you luck on your journey. Whether it is still with adoption or with another path. 🙂